I hear you, this steplife is hard. It's can turn even the most positive person into a bitter shrew. But life's too short and bitterness only hurts you. No real wisdom for you, just understanding and ((hugs)).

I get this. It's hard. For me, there's always a constant reminder of past behaviors. There are things that happened that BM brings up that didn't happen the way she said they did and DH has a bad memory (?-more like selective) for some of those things. Sometimes it's the little things like he thinks "let me shoot BM a text about..." then I have to remind him he should probably email her instead. He'll say "but text is faster" so I have to remind him the reason why he emails her instead of texting her is because she likes to go off, degrade him & his parenting, insult me...but in email she thinks are forwarded to his lawyer and wil be used against her so her responses are short and neutral. He's gone back to texting before and had to restart the email thing all over.

It's hard to let go of some of the stuff when you need it to remind you how to avoid being taken advantage of or let someone take advantage of someone you care about.

I hear you. For me, it's more being angry/upset/astounded that DH was so damn STUPID when it came to BioHo. It's very difficult to understand how men can be so bloody DENSE about manipulative skanks.