SD quits yet another activity...surprise surprise
Almost 4 weeks to the day of her decision that she loooooved this activity so much that she wanted to go 3 days a week, SD10 had a holy terror tantrum at the gym...melted down to the point that her coach told her mom to take her home. This is an activity where every member of the team is vital for practice and performance, not a solo sport. I saw this coming back when she first started this activity...she never makes it thru a season of anything. At least we hadn't already registered/paid for summer yet.
The meltdowns and crying (which she apparently did the prior day also, resulting in BM allowing her to miss school...) are new. I hope she's getting sick or something and that she isn't getting ready to start her cycle and be one of those kids who squalls monthly. I do NOT deal well with that.
BM also informed DH that SD is only wanting to wear tight/inappropriate clothes so we really need to watch how she is dressed when she leaves home. Well, guess who bought those tight/inappropriate clothes?? It wasn't DH or me! BM is the one who brought SD to us wearing a pair of leggings so tight you could see thru them. I confiscated those leggings that evening, they were a size 6.
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We have the skids
We have the skids approximately 50/50. I weed out inappropriate clothing when I do the laundry, and I am the most conservative person who deals with SD as far as that goes, so whatever clothes BM is having problems with are coming from her home. Both parents have allowed the serial dropping out of activities, I used to try to talk to DH about it, but he viewed my concerns as being critical (which is appropriate IMO) and took them negatively so I now stay out of it.
The kid wants to do what come easily to her, and she quits when she is challenged to learn more or push herself.
I haven't seen any of this crying business when she's with us, although she can be a bit stompy when she doesn't get her way.
I have removed myself as much
I have removed myself as much as I can. I weed the clothes because I am occasionally seen out in public with these skids, and I don't want people to think they are MY kids and I allow that sort of attire.
As far as the dropping out goes, I care because she isn't learning persistence and I fear for what that means for her later as far as getting a job. DH isn't the type to let his kid fail and struggle, he would rescue her and perpetuate the cycle. Which means I would have to deal with her influence on my household longer.
Meh, SD12 is the same way
Meh, SD12 is the same way with activities.
DP is desperate to get her involved in a sport. No idea why because she could care less.
Dropped out of: gymnastics, drama classes, a one-week theater summer course (couldn't even make in for FIVE DAYS), and several other things. I haven't paid anything or helped with her activities for two years now.
She recently dropped out of track after one week.
"It's too hard. It's boring. I don't have time."
DP bought her $250 worth of track clothes. He said, "Well, she needed them anyway." NO she didn't!
Now he's making noises about enrolling her in TENNIS lessons. WTH? I don't even talk about it with him. Yeah, so let's enroll her in something that is MORE expensive than anything that she's not ever once mentioned she might like to do.
I think it was her twisted
I think it was her twisted way of trying to somehow lay the blame on us for it, but DH went right back at her and told BM that she is the one buying those clothes, not anyone in our house. I think someone else must have said something to BM for her to finally have mentioned it--maybe even the school. The problem now is that SD has become accustomed to wearing those clothes, and practically refuses to wear things that fit properly--she will lie and say she doesn't have any clothes at our house rather than put on something that fits. Again, I only really care what she is wearing if I am going to be out and about with her, because I don't want anyone thinking she's mine and I allow that.