Recently, a women I know from a church group who was a mentor for women with young children announced that she is getting a divorce. My heart goes out to her and I am shocked. They have been married 25 years. They have teenage kids. I am not sure what to say to her. I as well as other women have turned to her over the years for advice.

Part of me is still the child that had 0 friends from divorced parents till I was a teenager. Up until I was an adult I was very sheltered and believed that all divorced people had serious issues. I refused to date divorced men or any with kids I thought something was wrong with them. I have since learned a lot and grown up a lot.

I am the stepmom. We are the family that other people don't want to explain to there children.