These days I am truely frustrated! If you have seen my blog from when I first wrote on here you will know that I have to skids 19 yr old prego daughter and 14 yr old SS. Lately the DH and I have been continuing to pay for everything for my SD. We now owe our machanic $350 for my SD's car to get fixed, and DH just gave her another $80 to get a new phone because she can't seem to keep one with out smashing the glass on it!!!!!! Besides the fact that we pay for her phone bill every month and car insurance. I want to know why the f**k is this our problem??? She is an ADULT and should be paying for these things herself! I don't give a hoot if she is prego! It's called being an adult and taking responsibilty for yourself and your bills. I don't mind helping the kids if they need it but god damn enough already! Yes part of the prob is the DH he is having a hard time letting his "little girl" grow up. While we continue to struggle finacially. Any advice on what to say to him to make him give her her responsibilites would be much appriciated. I've tried talking to him about it and he knows it because he has admitted it to me that he needs to let go......so let go already! UGH!!!!

Then there is my SS who is a whole nother story. He is at that age that well if you have a young teenage boy I'm sure you know? He likes girls that's for sure but likes them a little too much and has some sexuality issues. He was expsosed at too young of an age I'm not going to say how, what, or who as I am not certain that this sort of topic is allowed? So if I go too far in saying something please someone don't hesitate to delete/report this as inappropriate. I appologize in advance if any one is offended. So any who my SS has decided that well......stealing my undergarments is a good idea. This has been going on for over 9 months now. He also likes to take his sisters stuff too (the 19 yr old prego SD of mine). His father has told him repeatedly to stay out of our room and leave my things alone. He of course doesn't listen because he doesn't listen any ways! I tell DH every time SS takes something of mine. I have left notes in my drawer and have to constantly keep track of my clothes! This is an almost weekendly occurance. I say that because he is only with us on the weekends but he wants to come and live with us once he turns 15. In the state of NY he can do that legaly with out his BM being able to do anything about it. My SD did that when her parents spilt up cuz she was 15 when they got divorced. If you didn't understand that.....in the state of NY at the age of 15 a child can go live with who ever they choose to with out the parent(s) legaly being able to do anything about it. There could be a "grey" area in there but I don't know the details. I just know that I don't want my SS to come and live with us if he can't keep his filthy hands off my clothes! This is so EMBARASSING and DISTURBING. I don't even know what to say or do anymore to get DH to realize how wrong this is! Oh by the was SS got in trouble in school last yr for sending pics of himself (and I'm not talking selfies of his face) that is around the same time this all started with stealing my things. He is in counseling has had to go to court a few times over the whole matter, but I'm not so sure the counselor knows about his fetish with his SM's and sister's undergarments?!?! If they don't they should but I can't get DH to say anything to anyone. I'm fed up SS and ready to strangle the little.......It doesn't matter if my undergarments are dirty or clean either. He will take them out of the dirty clothes basket. So I have reduced myself to counting my clean clothes multiple times a day in my dresser drawers and keeping my dirty ones in a plastice bag so I can keep track of those too! Any help...thoughts....advice is much appriciated.