Is it normal for a 8 year old boy to be so aggressive?
My Fiancée's son is 8 years old and has been living with us for the past 2 1/2 months full-time. I never really noticed it before when we got him on just the weekends but having him everyday it's obvious that he's quite aggressive and I'm wondering if that's normal for an 8 year old boy or if it is because of lack of discipline?
Before when he'd come over his father and him would wrestle and joke around rough housing and that was the same when he played with me. Yet having him everyday where he's constantly jumping all over me and smacking me on the butt or his father and flicks me jokingly is starting to seem more of a disciple problem than a active 8 year old. I've told him to stop at times and he doesn't always listen (it just starts again in a little while) and his father doesn't mind him being that way towards him so it's hard for me to tell him to stop smacking my butt when his father laughs and thinks it's funny.
I don't have kids of my own but did raise my younger brother and I never had issues like this with him so any help would be appreciated.
Thanks!
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My son is 7 and he is very
My son is 7 and he is very active. If he has any sugar he becomes hyper to the point of jumping and running around. He isn't aggressive though. That might be more of a disipline problem. He spanks your butt and his father laughs? That sounds like another bio dad thats is trying to be friends rather than a parent.
Oh please tell me he's not one
of those parents...we've only had him full-time for 2 1/2 months so I'm on my knees praying that he's not one of the "friend" parents and is just easing into being a full-time dad. From what I've read here I know that I wouldn't be able to handle it if he was
Let your husband know....
.... how you feel about SS slapping your butt. I've got 3 kids, 4 step-kids, and had a foster daughter for 2 years - none of them slapped me on the butt. As far as I know, none of them ever even "thought" about it.
It may very well be a discipline problem - not to mean that your SS is a discipline problem. If he's only been with you for 2 1/2 months, he's probably "testing the line." All kids need to know where "the line" is, and where both parents stand - in reference to "the line." It's always best when both parents stand together, and always best when the line doesn't move.
Let your husband know that you are uncomfortable with it. If he refuses to put a stop to it, then YOU put a stop to it.
Let us know how it works out.
Tootsie