I just read your blog Miss Kay and I feel the same way... I love my husband dearly, I'm just so sick of the connection to Bm. I hate seeing her at Ss's events, I hate that her parents come up and want to babytalk with Dd... Yeah it's nice of them but still, I don't want them near me or my daughter. Thankfully Bm pretends I don't exists so she doesn't try to come near me or Dd. Ughh... I too dream of running away. I feel like Step life is sucking all happiness out of me.
Let me know when you find out. It's only Tuesday and I'm already dreading this time on Friday because the skids will be here. Sometimes, I wish DH would have to work so they couldn't come, but that just means they'll be here the next weekend. I USED to like the boys, but now I cannot bloody well stand them. The ADHD, the bedwetting, the snotty know-it-all (love it when DH proves you wrong!!) attitude, the noise, PrincASS whining because the dog breathed on him, the arguments over eating a few bites of veggies (they're 12 and 15 FFS), the constant bickering, waking DH when he's taking a much-needed snooze (he works nights, you little shi'theads), the sneaking and snooping...48 hours of stephell. If PigPen, PrincASS15, and BioHo fell off the face of the earth tomorrow, I wouldn't give a rat's arse.
psssh if Dh has to work, which he has for the past 4 weekends, Ss stays with me because Bm doesn't want him and Dh is too afraid to tell Bm he won't be taking him for visitation. FML
I'm not a "cryer" and I feel like crying almost every day. For me, the worst is the lack of dialogue when it comes to SS. I'm a reasonable person and cannot understand why almost everything regarding SS and BM is a tabu.
I feel like this also. Whenever someone mentions Ss or Bm, my stomach just turns and I hate feeling like that. I feel like I've been on edge lately and I just don't know why? Maybe it's because court is in 2 weeks??? I have no idea.
No, I actually don't feel bad too much of the time, but sometimes when SDs are acting up and DP is in "tune out" mode I get really, really frustrated. So I just try do do what's best for me, disengage as much as possible, and read my book. Have an extra glass of wine at dinner and go to bed early. Overall DP is great with me and is aware that the SDs are draining (even on him - we're working on that one) so that saves everything!
I used to be like Aniki, dreading Friday EOWE when it was only Tuesday. What I wouldn't give for it to be that way again, but that would mean BM would be alive and have SD19 and SD13. Now DH and I have them FT and I have tried to smile through the utter madness that has become my life. WTF? The only bright side to everything is that I can count down the years until SD19 is on her own. She is away at college, is only here 4 months out of the year, but she is pure HELL.
SD13 already says she wants to move out when she's 18. That'll never happen. I figure in 5 years, SD19 will be on her own somewhere, ANYWHERE but under my roof, and there will not be a room in my house for her. SDog will be going towards the light by then with his pee diaper on and I can almost handle SD13. Each day is a step in the right direction, because having these two fartknockers FT is about as bad as it gets. FML too. I sometimes feel hopeless, but hopeful, too, because this chapter will be easier to read in a few years. Getting my balls back. Yup.
But the worse part is it infiltrates every part of our life. Days off, vacations, budgets, food shopping, our spouses moods are all effected by their prior mistake (failed marriage). And because of this divorce rates are astronomical in second marriages
I still feel sad at times despite the fact that I've not seen or spoke to ss16 in 2.5 years.
I avoid looking at old pics of when our kids were young as it reminds me of how hopeful and optimistic I felt at one point about merging our families- so positive that I could handle anything in general that life threw my way.
I definitely have those days and my situation isn't even that bad. My skids are good kids and they like me and love their little siblings. It's just so chaotic and crazy and loud when they're here. They need constant whirlwind entertainment and action. I feel bad but I enjoy the low key weekends with just Dh and my little bios. I hate getting texts from bm constantly about little things that don't really matter. I hate that we will be connected to her for life but I love my Dh and he's worth it.
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I just read your blog Miss
I just read your blog Miss Kay and I feel the same way... I love my husband dearly, I'm just so sick of the connection to Bm. I hate seeing her at Ss's events, I hate that her parents come up and want to babytalk with Dd... Yeah it's nice of them but still, I don't want them near me or my daughter. Thankfully Bm pretends I don't exists so she doesn't try to come near me or Dd. Ughh... I too dream of running away. I feel like Step life is sucking all happiness out of me.
Ditto. I want a life without
Ditto. I want a life without them. It's like they live in my house too. Not one day goes by without them in our lives. It's driving me insane.
Let me know when you find
Let me know when you find out. It's only Tuesday and I'm already dreading this time on Friday because the skids will be here. Sometimes, I wish DH would have to work so they couldn't come, but that just means they'll be here the next weekend. I USED to like the boys, but now I cannot bloody well stand them. The ADHD, the bedwetting, the snotty know-it-all (love it when DH proves you wrong!!) attitude, the noise, PrincASS whining because the dog breathed on him, the arguments over eating a few bites of veggies (they're 12 and 15 FFS), the constant bickering, waking DH when he's taking a much-needed snooze (he works nights, you little shi'theads), the sneaking and snooping...48 hours of stephell. If PigPen, PrincASS15, and BioHo fell off the face of the earth tomorrow, I wouldn't give a rat's arse.
psssh if Dh has to work,
psssh if Dh has to work, which he has for the past 4 weekends, Ss stays with me because Bm doesn't want him and Dh is too afraid to tell Bm he won't be taking him for visitation. FML
I'm not a "cryer" and I feel
I'm not a "cryer" and I feel like crying almost every day. For me, the worst is the lack of dialogue when it comes to SS. I'm a reasonable person and cannot understand why almost everything regarding SS and BM is a tabu.
I feel like this also.
I feel like this also. Whenever someone mentions Ss or Bm, my stomach just turns and I hate feeling like that. I feel like I've been on edge lately and I just don't know why? Maybe it's because court is in 2 weeks??? I have no idea.
Either that or the
Either that or the accumulation of bad feelings. Hope it's the first, as it means it will be over soon. Wish you the best of luck!
No, I actually don't feel bad
No, I actually don't feel bad too much of the time, but sometimes when SDs are acting up and DP is in "tune out" mode I get really, really frustrated. So I just try do do what's best for me, disengage as much as possible, and read my book. Have an extra glass of wine at dinner and go to bed early. Overall DP is great with me and is aware that the SDs are draining (even on him - we're working on that one) so that saves everything!
I used to be like Aniki,
I used to be like Aniki, dreading Friday EOWE when it was only Tuesday. What I wouldn't give for it to be that way again, but that would mean BM would be alive and have SD19 and SD13. Now DH and I have them FT and I have tried to smile through the utter madness that has become my life. WTF? The only bright side to everything is that I can count down the years until SD19 is on her own. She is away at college, is only here 4 months out of the year, but she is pure HELL.
SD13 already says she wants to move out when she's 18. That'll never happen. I figure in 5 years, SD19 will be on her own somewhere, ANYWHERE but under my roof, and there will not be a room in my house for her. SDog will be going towards the light by then with his pee diaper on and I can almost handle SD13. Each day is a step in the right direction, because having these two fartknockers FT is about as bad as it gets. FML too. I sometimes feel hopeless, but hopeful, too, because this chapter will be easier to read in a few years. Getting my balls back. Yup.
~ Moon
It never ends because once
It never ends because once the CS money train ends these useless BM have no more use for their equally worthless "kids".
And then you have these
And then you have these man-children who the BM fucked up raising mooching off your resources. It's disgusting.
OMG this is my life exactly
OMG this is my life exactly minus the DD. I get through it my drinking, a lot. Not my finest attribute.
But the worse part is it
But the worse part is it infiltrates every part of our life. Days off, vacations, budgets, food shopping, our spouses moods are all effected by their prior mistake (failed marriage). And because of this divorce rates are astronomical in second marriages
I still feel sad at times
I still feel sad at times despite the fact that I've not seen or spoke to ss16 in 2.5 years.
I avoid looking at old pics of when our kids were young as it reminds me of how hopeful and optimistic I felt at one point about merging our families- so positive that I could handle anything in general that life threw my way.
I definitely have those days
I definitely have those days and my situation isn't even that bad. My skids are good kids and they like me and love their little siblings. It's just so chaotic and crazy and loud when they're here. They need constant whirlwind entertainment and action. I feel bad but I enjoy the low key weekends with just Dh and my little bios. I hate getting texts from bm constantly about little things that don't really matter. I hate that we will be connected to her for life but I love my Dh and he's worth it.