Well, I feel consumed by my sd14. I am finally willing to give up this toxic relationship. This girl is failing all of her CORE classes. and computers. highest grade 52% lowest is 22% and she has two of those. The teachers email me DAILY about detention or her not paying attention or so on so forth. I'm sick of it. Is consumes me. I have to let it all go. So I wrote the teachers this email.

"Dear Teachers,

I appreciate all your patience with SD14. I am taking a few steps away from the situation. I am to close as her step-mother and care to much about this situation to not be able to do anything. I would appreciate it if you would email Eric at DH@gmail.com or call him at 333-333-3333.

MY NAME"

Called Dh and told him to be expecting this. He said why the hell would you do this. I said i should not care about sd14 more than you do. U want me to be in charge but i can't discipline her or even talk to her. You show you don't give a shit about what i say becuase you won't even discuss the things we talk about to her counsler. Im done. I love you but im done with being her mother. if she wanted me as a mother awesome but she doesn't. I asked her why their is pad trash all over the floor and she is a jerk to me. i can't stand it. guess what the trash is still in the floor.

So when i got home. he didn't speak to me. When i left for church and came back he still was pissed at me, but i was tired becuase i work all day then work with the babies. so i went to bed and he got mad at me for not telling him i was going to bed.

SO i still have a long ways to go. i don't really know how to avoid her if she is in the living room. or how to be civil at the dinner table or how when we take the boys to do fun things and have to take her becuase its not right. i don't know. but one step at a time right?

So not i have to figure out how to disengage without being a witch