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Submitted by BettyRay on Tue, 01/12/2010 - 2:17pm

I'm sick of the TV in SS8's bedroom.

SS8 and SS12 shared SS8's room until fall when we turned our guest room into SS12's room. SS12 doesn't have a TV in his new room and to be fair DH agreed to take the TV out of SS8's room so neither kid would have a TV in their bedroom.

(No kid should have a TV in their bedroom - IMHO - I never agreed with ssons having one in their bedroom in the first place, but I compromised with DH when they moved in and let the TV issue go.)

DH was supposed to take it out after SS8's birthday party, that was the middle of November; then DH said after New Year's Eve; The TV is still in SS8's room.

It's DH problem not SS8's. SS8 would be just fine without a TV in his room - he doesn't have one in his room at BM's house - but DH uses the TV as a babysitter, it's DH's crutch. I just wish DH would do it instead of putting it off.

I decided I'm not going to bring it up to DH again. I'm tired of nagging him. I'm either going to let the issue go or take the TV out of SS8's room myself - I just have to figure out how to disconnect all the crap attached to the TV.

Thanks for letting me vent, I realize in the this is a minor thing but it's annoying me, like sand between my toes.

~BettyRay

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Submitted by Denial on Tue, 01/12/2010 - 2:34pm

SS16 has had a tv in his room at BM's right after the divorce 9 years ago. Then a computer, an x-box, and all sorts of stuff. He feels entitled to now have this stuff at our house and we only get him EOW.

I agree with you - a bedroom is for 2 things: 1. Sleeping and 2. Something they shouldn't be doing. There is no reason for a tv, etc in the bedroom of a child. SS seems to think he goes to sleep better when he has all of his fun stuff in the bedroom, that's why "he doesn't sleep well at our house".

Also why he is now on sleeping pills full time - because he sleeps so well at his BMs????##@@@??. Maybe he can't sleep because his eyes are frozen to the x-box!

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Submitted by BettyRay on Tue, 01/12/2010 - 2:47pm

I'm sorry - A little clarity - SS8 will get up in the middle of the night and watch TV, in the morning he's exhausted ans he does horrible at school. SS12 has caught him doing this and so has DH.

DH and SS12 like to fix things - cars, house, etc. SS8 will start off helpiing them and then gets bored. So it's easier for DH to let SS8 go to his room and watch TV or play GameCube, than it is to keep SS8 occupied without the TV.

9 times out of 10 on a lovely sunny day we (me, DH, & SS12) will be outside in the yard and SS8 will be in the house watching TV.

IMO - if the TV is removed DH will have to improve his interactions and communication with SS8 and that would be a wonderful thing. I have observed on more than one occasion SS8 being left out of an activity that SS12 was doing with DH and they both didn't think to include SS8. Sort of like SS8 out of sight (watching TV) out of mind.

~BettyRay
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Submitted by LMR120 on Tue, 01/12/2010 - 3:30pm

Oh I see. Thats not good. My daughter has a TV in her room and she can go in there and watch movies if she wants but she knows not to stay up watching TV I guess its an integrity thing which from this website sounds like a lot of BMs arent installing in thier children. Take the TV.

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Submitted by MsPerception on Tue, 01/12/2010 - 3:15pm

My BS18 & BD15 had tvs in their rooms when they were younger and have them in their rooms now, but we do not have cable or satellite or anything of the sort. Just a really large dvd collection and only one dvd player in the living room. They were given choice of tv or internet and they opted for the web. Good for us mostly because no one can really veg out in front of tv rotting their brains out Smile The skids however have tv's in their rooms and channels galore along with the techno gaming devices. At this point it's really on dbf and moomoo to sort out the brain cells they have left when they are plunked in front of said devices at her house versus his. When we lived together we had alotted time frames for the under 4ft crowd so that the older set got viewing time too. Of course being a big kid himself he would wig out if the channel was changed because it was time for the older crowd to watch tv. I miss the news and my CSI's but my group interact a lot more than television would really allow Smile

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Submitted by prayerhelps on Tue, 01/12/2010 - 5:28pm

UNPLUG ALL ITEMS CLOSE TO TV FROM THE POWER SOURCES AND CUT ALL THE OTHER CABLES AND GET OUT OF ROOM ASAP.

Just my personal opinion. My kids rarely watch TV They create their own worlds w/imagination. They play outside, even in the cold, they play board games, they read books. Every now and then they can watch TV, usually as a family. There are 2 TV's in our house, one in Family room, and a tiny one in basement. I can't stand to have in my bedroom (lots more important things to do in there anyway }:)