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Submitted by steffie6333 on Sat, 11/07/2009 - 4:14pm

Hi all! I am a newbie to this site. I have been a SM6 for 2.5 years now. Me or my husband can not stand this woman. They were never married and she has always been pissed off about that. My husband was smart enough not to marry her even though everyone around him was pushing him into it.

With that said, I have always tried to be understanding and civil to this woman, but she is making it increasingly difficult for me to hold on to the high road. I don't want any contact with her and only want her to speak to my husband...is that possible? Is is also possible to not let my emotions take over when it comes to her?

Thanks for letting me vent.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sat, 11/07/2009 - 6:21pm

I agree with you in that I think it's best that she and your husband communicate, and I'd do this the next time she tries to communicate with you, so you don't say something you might regret later. I'd recommend asking her to communicate via email for regular stuff, and text DH's cell for emergencies.

I don't know about their custody agreement or if they have a court order in place regarding transportation, child support, visitation, who has primary custody (or do they have joint custody?). If there is not one in place, you need to get one so that if she tries to withhold visitation or play any games, your DH can enforce his rights.

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Submitted by buttercup123 on Sat, 11/07/2009 - 7:57pm

Yes, she is HIS problem, not yours. Tell him you want nothing to do with her and that he has to deal.

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Submitted by stepmom2one on Sun, 11/08/2009 - 9:11am

SM6? what does that mean?

You don't have to talk to her. Whenever BM wanted to talk to me and I didn't want to I told him no. He would tell her, SM doesn't want to talk to you. It pissed her off but I didn't care. She was treating me badly, believing SDs lies about me.

It is up to you who you do or do not talk to.

I told my H "this is your fault we have to deal with her the rest of our lives. You deal with her, you were the one stupid enough to have sex with her--not me"

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Submitted by wicked step mother on Sun, 11/08/2009 - 4:11pm

Hate to point this out but if my husband gets a boil on his A@@ or has a bad headache or say a festering wound or his ex acts up, trust me it effects me ie. us You certainly don't have to talk to her but she is a fact of your life now, face that head on.