Hello everyone,

I am new here. I will try to be brief on the background...we are a blended family. 8 kids. I have 6, he has two younger kids (7 and 4 The 4 year old has a form of autism). We both work part time. I make more than he does and I get CS and SS from my previous relationship. My new partner's income is significantly lower. His ex pays $80 a week for their 2 children for CS.

I had suggested a 70-30 split on all household bills and that we each take care of the needs of our own children such as clothes, school needs etc..(that means me paying more of the bills). He originally agreed but then when weeks without paying and he's about 9 weeks behind in contributing to the bills (I paid them but he still owes for them). He doesn't think this 70-30 is fair anymore. He thinks I should be paying for all the bills because he helps out at home. I do the grocery shopping and meal prep, I do my own laundry and my kids' laundry. He cleans the house, he does his kids laundry.

Another problem comes with child care. He works in the evenings when I am home. He has arranged for a sitter to come in to look after his kids when he is at work two evenings a week. His ex does not contribute to the babysitting cost and my partner is looking for me to pay for his sitter. I pay for all my child care needs when I am working. In fact, if my partner babysits my children, I pay him for his time.

We have our own bank accounts and credit cards.

What are other families doing to manage the household expenses in these uneven situations? I thought I was being fair but there is so much resentment and animosity building up it's almost becoming toxic.