I have a friend that has done this for the past four years. She's had so many crappy guys involved in her sons' lives with engagements, the men sleeping over, etc. And the guys she chooses leave a lot to be desired. Her problem is that she can't stand to be alone. She always needs a man.

She married the latest in June and was texting me a day before the wedding saying she didn't want to get married to him. I told her better to disappoint a few people now than to go through a crappy divorce again. She married him anyway and has kicked him out of the house more times than I can count in the last six months.

I just feel sorry for the kids that get dragged through their immature parent's crap over and over again.

HNRYC i agree!!! i told a friend this yesterday. she hates being alone, and she's still hooked on the previous (fairly long) relationship. that one was NOT healthy, but no reason to jump around from man to man. i told her when she ENJOYS being alone, when she's happy with HERSELF and not looking for someone else to fill her needs, that is the time it will happen.

it did to me

What I find interesting is people who willingly enter into relationships with men/women who are still married (separated, but before the divorce is final), or just a few months after the divorce is finalized.

I don't know why anyone thinks this is a good idea .. especially when there's kids involved. Classic case of the "stepmom" swooping in to fix the broken man and mother his child .. and we all know how THAT ends ..

I sometimes think that people who were in very long-term relationships, say 10-20+ years, are scared to be alone, and want to jump right into the next relationship. I think maybe some people forget that it takes possibly years of getting to know someone fully, so why rush into marriage? I understand the desire to not be alone, and the head over heels initial feelings are pretty awesome.

I really don't understand how people can jump into relationships if there are younger children involved. I know if DH and I split, I would not be having anyone overnight around them, and I wouldn't jump into another marriage until I would be confident (as well as I could be) that it would last. I'm not sure that's even possible while my children are young. I certainly would date, but my children come first, and that means stability for them. There's plenty of time when they're grown to play. It's going too fast already!

First off: I HATE FACEBOOK!

Social media is a nightmare. It is used to pass along gossip and advertise and for people to paint fake images of themselves and yes, for people to revisit old loves. Oh - how sweet to go back in time and be young all over again. I know SO MANY that have divorced because of Facebooka and meeting their old love of their life. Happy, Happy until reality hits. Often they are escaping bad situations but the complication of adding another person in the picture during the divorce process creates so much hatred and the kids get caught right in the middle.

I divorced without havein another "guy" in the buffer ready.

Dated - etc. I can honestly see why a lot of people would say "I love being alone". I really do think often best for the kids depending on situation is to just spend some time alone with them. Only problem I see with that is I have a friend that waited and then once a significant other gets placed in the picture they TOTALLY ACT UP. No time for a new guy/gal is a good time. Best chance at blending families is when the kids are young (<10). Teens are nightmares to deal with in blended family.

No perfect life - no perfect way!!!!