Think my xSD is stalking me
For those who are unfamiliar with my background, I adopted a pup from the local shelter when I left my xH and StepHell.. He (my dog Ryder) has turned out to be a very awesome dog. He has competed in AKC obedience trials and titled, and we are now involved in protection training (Schutzhund.) This evening, as I was putting Ryder through his paces, I heard a familiar voice yelling in the background, so I looked up and I see clearly, it is my xSD. Obviously, I am quite distracted since there is NO WAY IN HELL that she should be there. She hates dogs. Plus, what are the chances she knows anyone there????
When the training lesson is over, she comes over to me and congratulates me and Ryder on his strong showing. I was at a total loss for words and just said thanks and walked away. Now, xH has attempted contact sporadically but, has been ignored totally.
WTF????? I asked around and NO ONE knows her personally. One woman remembers seeing her at another event a few weeks ago but, again, this kidult HATES dogs. What are the chances that this mini-beast is stalking me, and WTH do I do about it? She didn't do or say anything negative so, nothing I can really do legally. Still, I feel victimized in a way. I am supposed to be at another meet on Friday and I really don't want to go now.
This kidult has been diagnosed with BPD w/ Histrionic/NPD overlay. Any thoughts/ideas?
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Oh hell yes, she is mental.
Oh hell yes, she is mental. Spent a large portion of her childhood in several institutions. (I actually dx'd her long before the doctors did, lol.) It's just disconcerting b/c she seems to know all the lingo that goes along with MY hobby, and when I heard that someone saw her a few weeks ago at another meet, it freaked me out. It's not like these meets are even remotely close to where she and xH live, and she always made her comtempt of animals VERY clear. It just creeps me out. Plus, she has no fear of police and has an extremely overblown sense of entitlement. I almost want to call xH and tell him but, too afraid that somehow, he's involved in this behavior. She doesn't drive b/c she's mentally unstable and can't get a license in our state. Wishing now that I left the state. UGH!
Keep your dog really close.
Keep your dog really close. Would she flip and do something to your dog to get to you?
He is never out of my sight
He is never out of my sight and has received extensive 'poison proofing' lessons. I think I would go to jail for murder, if that little witch hurt my dog. Though, I have wondered what the reasoning behind her being 'there' really is. Just can't figure it out, which is why I assumed stalking. Whatever it is, she is certainly picking the wrong person to target. I know what rights I have, and what responsibility I have where my dog is concerned. If the dog doesn't get her, the bullet will, lol. Thanks for the concern.
This is the thing. These
This is the thing. These people (my X or his kidults) are not into dog's OR dog sports. I wasn't even allowed to own a dog b/c xSS was allergic (in my 9 yrs with them.) How would she possibly just happen to be there? The place we practice is not a public place. It is a private piece of land owned by one of the members of the club. Opened only for meetings/practices. I don't do FB and have no immediate family locally so, no one would even know I am there. There is no way that she just happened onto this 'hobby.' True, she saw my dog.... once, many months ago. He was not friendly to her or my xH. I assumed that xH has gotten her involved somehow. No other reason for her to be anywhere near me, personally. I have had no contact with xH. True he has called here and there.... and left VM's, texts, emails. All of which have gone unanswered. When I am out, I am OUT. Period. No misconstrued messages on my part at all.
Unless I am sure with a 100% certainty that she is there to create problems, I will ignore her to the best of my ability. It just makes me very uneasy. None of these people are grounded in reality, including my xH.
I just hope that my ignoring the situation, leaves her feeling unfulfilled enough to move on. We didn't have a good relationship. As a matter of fact, she was quite instrumental in the demise of my marriage. She moved in the minute I moved out. Creepy! :jawdrop:
Is it possible she's after
Is it possible she's after some guy who's into showing his dog and just happens to be where you are?
If that isn't an option, yeah, she's going there to try to see you for some reason.
Creepy.
Do you think you're in any danger from her or is she just weird?
There were about 30+ people
There were about 30+ people there (excluding the pro handlers) and I don't know everyone. I am hoping that she's there b/c of someone she's dating/interested in. The only other reason would be my xH OR her disorder. She has violent tendencies and has come at me physically on occasion (when I was married to her father) but, I haven't had any dealings with her since I left (other than running into them months ago.) She hasn't even attempted any contact, which is probably why it creeped me out so much. Today is a new day and I decided that I will be going Friday evening. If she's there, I will ignore her but, I'll be asking around to see if she is 'there' with someone just to be sure.