Not a good night... told DH that SD could go f*ck herself...

Then followed it up with, "Nevermind, even she wouldn't want to f*ck her nasty snatch!"

UGH. I'm usually so mellow. I keep my words measured and am careful not to put DH in a position of wanting to defend SD.
However, tonight I want to rip that bitch's face off and shove it up her a$$. It helps that DH referred to her as his "bi#ch of a daughter..." so I guess he finally sees that she's a royal pain in the a$$.

What brought on all this drama on an otherwise calm Sunday evening??

SD is 18, unmarried, with a child. Her skanky a$$ has been on BC since she was 14 because she was caught f*cking guys years older than her in middle school. Imagine our shock and surprise when she became a teen mom on government aid. (Sarcasm.)

She has pictures posted all over of her baby. On Facebook, instagram, she's even posted the baby's pics on an online baby photo contest.
So, my DD13 (trying to be nice!!) linked one of these pics and said "Congratulations on the baby! Wish you the best!" and SD FLIPPED.HER.SHIT. After all, HOW DARE my DD put up a pic of HER child???

You know, I could get it if SD was being private. But, she's not. She's even posted pic on a wide open website for the baby contest! Anyone and everyone can copy, print, or link these photos.

F*ckin' cow. My DD apologized to her (I wouldn't have) and then removed the pic. She was really hurt because she was trying to congratulate SD and be happy for her.

I lost it. That's when I uttered my rather inarticulate words.

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This is what I'd like to know

This is what I'd like to know too.

I wasn't around for most of

I wasn't around for most of it...but...from what I could tell...it was always all about SD.
She's had the disrespectful mouth of an unparented teen, and I could go into story after story of her teen years. She's spoiled, treats everyone like shit, manipulates anyone and everyone to get what she wants, etc.
Get punished? Yeah, right. Once in 6 years that I've seen, and her "grounding" got cut short down to two days (instead of a month) because she was "behaving."

As a little child? No idea. Thankfully, I didn't know her then. }:)

She's an adult she is a big

She's an adult she is a big girl now. She should be able to take as good as she gives at this point

"It helps that DH referred to

"It helps that DH referred to her as his "bi#ch of a daughter..." so I guess he finally sees that she's a royal pain in the a$$."

It's a sad day when any parent feels that way about their child. What is his role in creating this situation? What is BMs and what is SDs?

ETA: if she rarely ever had to face consequences for her behavior, then he is to blame in part for this too. But at 18, I think if sd wants to improve her life, she can and should.

Oh, she's blocked on

Oh, she's blocked on everything now.

DH and BM split when SD was

DH and BM split when SD was in elementary school. I came around when she starting middle school (so, 12, I think?)
DH had EOWe visitation *only if/when* SD and BM decided he could have it.
Back to court, over and over, and nothing ever happened to BM for refusing visitation. Then, when SD was 14, the judge told her she could come and go as she saw fit. WTF! So court orders don't apply to her, either.

She's been spoiled...by everyone. She's always gotten her way because no one wanted to deal with the fall out of telling her "no."

Done contempt, mediation, GAL, you name it.

"DH had EOWe visitation *only

"DH had EOWe visitation *only if/when* SD and BM decided he could have it."

There's nothing that can undo that but that's a huge mistake.

I agree with those who say to block her from your dds FB profile.

I agree that was a huge

I agree that was a huge mistake, but how else to have fought it?

He filed contempt (more than once!), went to mediation (more than once!), and got a GAL. Oh, and paid for SD to see a shrink all that time to deal with her "issues."

The saddest part of those years? That the court system did NOTHING but take his money. NOTHING ever happened to BM. Shit, she didn't even get verbally reprimanded. HE did, because he kept filing on her.

Yeah. I have no faith in the family justice system.

Foxie - you know I love you

Foxie - you know I love you but I don't believe you're being fair to the OP.

I met DH's kid when she was 10 stb11, Uberskank spent a lot of time filling her head with a lot of BS about how the world works. I could have very easily been in the OP's shoes. Fortunately, DH's kid is turned out to be more like him than like Uberskank. Because honestly? I expected his kid to be pregnant by 16.

Like me, the OP only had so much influence on the skid and usually none at all when the bios aren't stepping up to the plate.

One of the first thing this site taught me, is that I am not responsible for how DH's and Uberskank's kid turns out.

WTF, Foxie?? First, I've only

WTF, Foxie??

First, I've only had sex with the two men I married. I've got morals. Pretty strong ones. I'm no one's slot machine.

Second, this girl didn't live with us. Shit, she was 12 before I started dating her dad, and we didn't see her much.

How on Earth did *I* play a part in SD's promiscuity?!?