OK, so here it goes, My partner had a one night stand (before me), told the woman his name was Johnny and gave her his old number.. she became pregnant on his one night stand.. soo she tracked him down and stalked him and his mother put his name on the birth certificate and signed, he then met his daughter and decided to move in with her to try and support her. the idiot then decided to sleep with her while he was staying there as he had given up hope on "finding love" .. his words..
They "split up" and argued alot so he moved out and a month later, met me. I didn't know him from a bar of soap and chose to date him. He soon told me of his 6 month old daughter and the dynamics there.
I accepted it and even tried helping the BM with issues she had. Only to find out that she was using me to try get money to go partying, a baby sitter and to get between myself and my partner.
It's now been 5 years, after 1 year, i had the mother trespassed from my property after social welfare took the child from her care and placed her in ours for 6 months while she learned some decent hygiene and she decided to turn up drunk with a group of her friends at 3am screaming and crying.
Was arrested and taken away.
She has tried getting between us at any time she can, even when he has changed his number, gone 6 months without seeing his daughter, We have recently got back together and the first night I came over to his place she rang HIS father abusing him because she no longer has my partners number to abuse and threaten him. thinking that this will "get Levi back" after 5 years.
I saw my SD for the first time in 6 months the other day and chose to hide away and not go near her or talk to her, she's only young. But her mother fills her head with allsorts of bad things about me. She told her that I took her Dad away from "their family" when she was younger, and that I am a bitch and she shouldn't be around me.
I find discipline was the hardest because I was stricter then my partner, he didn't like ME disciplining her, although he was fine to go party with his bro's for long periods of time and leave her with me.
I find it hard to accept her and get over the jealousy that he managed to impregnate "psycho" while I can't have any kids due to Poly cystic ovarian syndrome and cervical cancer.
These feelings are normal according to the counsellor I have been seeing. But that doesn't help me. Any advice on how to stop feeling like the Evil Sepmother reincarnation??