bm addressed and blamed me for SD16 and her dads fallout, of course FML
I'm 2secs away from going to bm house and telling her abt herself.
I'm trying hard to hold my composure. Fdh was supposed to give sd 16 $ for her hair and pick her up from the salon. He has a meeting he forgot about Thursday so he told sd he will drop off the $ but can't pick her up...... oh holy shit
Bm sent FDH a text saying "he's a piece of crap dad and said I'm sure goincrazy is reading this right now and I just want to say, congrats, you have done a great job and have been successful at driving my daughter away from her dad. sd 16 has tried and goincrazy has shown no effort. How sad and pathetic, you guys enjoy your life without her and I'll enjoy MY daughter"
Sd 16 was "crying" bc daddy cancelled.
Of course that's my fault Like everything else. I'm irate.
FDH followed suit and started in about my looks I give, lack of warmth, and my "guard being up" when she's around. How I can never let anything go and she's just a kid who misses her dad
Her PAS'ing mom can suck it. I'm so angry, I'm tired of being the blame for everything. I know we steps get the brunt of all blame- for things th a have nothing o do with us. I feel emotionally beaten up. I try to not let this shit get to me but Damn it's sickening.
I went on a long walk. I just don't know how to deal anymore. damned if I do damned if I dont.
I wanna tell her bitchass mom abt herself.
I have been cordial. I've made effort. I don't strike up conversation she acts as though I'm invisible and treats my bio like shit.
After all this drama FDH is picking her up today anyway, she needs a ride, doesn't matter we had plans. Wants to have a "family" meeting bc I'm abt to walk.
I can't even look at this girl right now and he wants me to listen to her feelings????? What a joke
I need advice, ammo and what to do about Bm. Grandkids day next week ...I'm supposed to b in the same room as this heifer???
I just question if I can deal with this shit for the rest of my life.
FDH holds strong then falls for sd 16 and ex guilt.
Sorry for typo's, on mobile
How would you deal besides walking, I know thats an option already
Thanks for reading
Since I'm not walking, I
Since I'm not walking, I woukd straight up tell my SO that he can royally shove his silly comments up his ass. I do not accept blame for someone else's hissy fits. If he doesn't like the looks I give, my lack of warmth, and any of his other ridiculous complaints about ME, then he is free and clear to leave me in peace and go find someone who can satisfy all his requirements.
I don't do family meetings to listen to the feefees of a twit simply because someone thinks I should.
As for BM, I don't get involved with any of that. I don't care if the lunatic thinks I'm keeping Precious away from daddy.
^^^^this 100%^^^^
^^^^this 100%^^^^
So this was all because your
So this was all because your fdh did not pick up sd at the salon as he told her he would? WTF does that have to do with you? And how dare any of them try and say that it does? The only meeting I would be having would be with my fdh to see if I wanted to continue with him as my fdh. You are not in any way involved in this situation so do not let them suck you into any sort of meeting about it.
Please tell your fdh that if he has a shitty relationship with his kid, if she leads him around by the nose and he allows it, then that is 100 per cent on him-you are not involved in their relationship and have nothing to do with it. And to please leave you out of it!
As far as this nasty bm-eff her! Seriously. She knows nothing abuot what effort you may have made. She is not inside your home and I am sure she hardly knows you.
As far as miss princess? I would say nothing about any of this to her. Again, it is none of your concern, you had nothing to do with any of it, you know nothing of it.
Three words: Not my child.
Three words: Not my child.
Wow. I don't even know WHAT I
Wow. I don't even know WHAT I would say to my DH about that complete and total CRAP.
Besides telling him to take his insecurities and guilt and shove them up his ass because YOU are not responsible for SD16 being a manipulative little brat and YOU did not bring this girl up or she would act better. YOU also did not stick your dick in crazy and if he loves you at all, he needs to put up strict boundaries with BM as to him NEVER entertaining anything she feels she needs to say about YOU.
Your name should NEVER cross her lips or fingers. The kid is playing both sides against the middle and the parents are too stupid and at odds with each other to see it for themselves.
I sure did say those things,
I sure did say those things, I said I am not taking responsibility for YOUR relationship, she had a problem with me and blamed me simply bc in with you and if you are really falling for this guilt from your ex and sd 16 you are dumber then I thought. This has nothing to do with me, every time she doesn't get her way she starts thus big drama and I end up with the blame and she is the victim. I said you really don't see it????
He said let's give it one more chance, be nice, don't hold grudges. :0
We are not meeting tonight, he's picking her up and dropping her off.....She has plans........WTF
Also, he called bm and told
Also, he called bm and told her, her daughter is no saint and doesn't even acknowledge me. She said she doesn't like when ppl make her daughter cry.........bitch! I didn't make her cry! She calls last min, daddy has plans too bad.
I'm so over this! FDH is kissing my ads. I don't even care
Easier to blame you than
Easier to blame you than admit he messed up. If he stuck up for you then she would turn on him. Feel bad for you I know how it works. Don't be their punchbag. BD and SD are deep down still angry with your H they just can't say.