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SS wants us to be one big happy family

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Submitted by newmommy05 on Mon, 07/29/2013 - 7:54pm

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SS is a pretty happy go lucky kind of kid. He's very into doing things "as a family" or telling people he "needs to spend time with his family". When he says family, though, he is talking about EVERYBODY in his family including all of BM and DH and my family. Obviously this should be a good thing, but it bugs me when he's on FaceTime with BM and he brings the phone to each one with us to say hi to her. He does the same thing when he's on Skype with BM's mom and dad. How should I tell him in a nice way that I don't want to talk to them and don't like the fact that he brings the phone around the show them our house?

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Submitted by Onefootout on Mon, 07/29/2013 - 8:02pm

"Oh, thanks hon, but I'm gonna let you and your mama have special alone time together, please tell her I said hey!" With a big smile and nice soft high pitched voice. Delivery is everything. If he's really really young, DH should be taking care of this, you shouldn't have to deal with it. So DH doesn't want to tell his kid no, don't give the phone to newmommy?

Make sure your DH knows you will not talk to BM, and DH can find a nice way to let his own kid know. If DH won't address it, then try the nice sugary sweet voice. Ick. Sorry you have to deal with that. Not the kid's fault, of course, this is DH's fault.

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Submitted by Thursdaysarethe... on Tue, 07/30/2013 - 8:53am

SS6 does something similar, he's always asking "can our whole family go bowling one day". Sadly, BM has put it in SS8 head that she and DH "really don't get along" so whenever SS6 asks, SS8 counters with "you know mommy and daddy don't get along". In reality, DH and BM have no trouble getting along, they just don't agree on most things. In 3 yrs, I've never seen/heard them argue or fight, even about disagreements and DH is a peacemaker.

As much as I would not want to go bowling with BM and her family, it kinda sucks that SS8 shoots down SS6 dreams of getting everyone together just because BM has made SS8 to believe that BM and DH can't get along.