sorta repost... BM & your cell phone?
I blogged about this last night....
Does BM have your cell phone #?
I pick SD up from daycare around 5. DH doesn't get home until 8 2 nights a week and 7 2 nights a week (early on Friday, around 5).
BM asked to have my # a year and a half ago so we could talk. I was dumb enough to fall for it. Now she calls whenever SD is here at 5/5:30 to talk to her after camp. If I don't answer she blows up my phone & DH. If we are out somewhere she wants me to make SD stop playing (on the playground or wherever we go after I pick her up) to talk. SD gets frustrated etc.
Then she also calls sometimes when SD isn't here. I never answer.
I want to block her #. The thought of her makes my blood boil. She's been so rude to me and my family. Somehow her and DH made it work when I wasn't around, she called in the morning & at bedtime. That's what it would be back to.
I actually want to fully disengage from BM, not SD. I don't mind cooking for SD, helping her clean, hanging out with her after camp for a few hours (she's only here extended in the summer, during the school year it's eowe & DH handles everything). I don't mind her, I actually am quite fond of SD. But BM is the source of so much anger & also causes me and DH to aruge over how to deal with her. I don't want her to have my # or talk to me or email me or text me. I don't want to see her, go to pick up/drop offs etc. DH says it's fine & I can block BM # & move on with our lives. He will handle her like he did when he was single.
Am I being rude? Should I just suck it up?
Block her. You should have
Block her. You should have never let her have your # in the first place but I know you thought you were doing the civil thing.
My husband and I have been together almost 17 years and I can count on one hand how many times I have seen BM or talked to her on the phone.
I did it just now. I'm
I did it just now. I'm free.
I envy you. I need to be more like you with not seeing or talking to BM
Block her. My DH works
Block her. My DH works nights 2/4 weeks, so the skids are home with me when she calls to talk to them. She's allowed to call the house phone .. and that's it.
It sounds like you tried to take the civil route and she took advantage. In my house, when you take advantage of people, you lose priveledges .. like the ability to call/text me on my cell phone.
Thanks. Sometimes I just
Thanks. Sometimes I just think I get so angry I'm irrational & I don't have my own bios yet so I don't know how it would be.
I don't have bios either. At
I don't have bios either. At the end of the day, YOU decide how people are allowed to treat you. If blowing up your phone and stressing you and the skids out is not what you want .. stop allowing it.
Block her and be free
Yes I am magically busy when
Yes I am magically busy when she calls her back at bedtime. I go downstairs & make sure I can't hear any of it. She wants to go to her lawyer because we aren't letting her talk to her 3 times a day. I don't think courts would make that a rule right? I figured it would be 1 call a day.
That same thing has happened
That same thing has happened to us. Phone ringing all through dinner because she's a fool. So afraid that DH will be like her, & keep SD away from her.
I blocked Crazo years ago and
I blocked Crazo years ago and no I did not give her my number she took it out of the skids phones.
Then she stared using the skids phones to call me so I blocked them, and told them why. After about a year I unblocked the skids but still have crazo blocked and she hasn't tried to reach me with their phones.
Not my kids not my problem, my name is dragonfly your name is crazo. You are their mother not me. So if you have an issue call DH he is their father.
Don't call me not my kid not my problem.
agreed, I'm so glad I'm not
agreed, I'm so glad I'm not the only one & awful to feel this way
NPD BM has never had my
NPD BM has never had my mobile phone number, and for the last 7 years I have had caller display on our landline, and on the very seldom occasions she calls it, I don't pick up. This is as a result of a piece of behaviour 7 years ago when she rang, I picked up, and without announcing who she was or acknowledging me she said "let me speak to my daughters". Once, people do that with me. Not twice.
Why do people have to be so
Why do people have to be so RUDE? ugh.
Our BM says the same thing.
Our BM says the same thing. "I'm calling to talk to my daughters". I don't ever answer the phone; I hand it to the skids and let them answer. She doesn't get to talk to me. Ever.
I usually do the same.
I usually do the same. Sometimes BM asks to talk to me after she's done talking to SD. No more. Not on my cell phone. I called sprint & blocked it just now. Aparently, on my end I will hear nothing. On her end the phone will ring & ring & ring & ring never going to voicemail.
She has my number only and
She has my number only and doesn't have DH's. They couldn't get along if you paid them, but she and I are friends.
But we're weird
I think silly as that was
I think silly as that was that's what I expected. Not friends, but her and DH hate eachother. I thought hey, why would she hate me? But she is rude and harrasses me to no end and I won't deal with it. Too bad they can't all be kind like your DH's BM
BM has my number she will
BM has my number she will randomly contact me normally about things that she doesn't want to tell DH though he reads my text.
She used to abuse having my number and we had a screaming match about it at one point because she told me since she had my number (Mind you I didn't give it to her she took it off a sports roster for SS as DH works offshore, and primarily nights so it was easier for coaches to contact me) I was a constant gateway for her to talk to SS if DH wasn't around and would get all super pissy if he wasn't around me and we had a huge screaming -- since then she has used it wisely.
That's what BM thinks of me.
That's what BM thinks of me. Like oh you have a cell phone SPECIFICALLY because when DH is still at work & I am with SD she can call my phone to talk. She never thinks "oh she didn't answer I'll leave a voicemail & move on" she just keeps calling & calling & calling like a damn fool.
I feel better since I've blocked her because I tried having a discussion with her once & it didn't work.
Like I said I blew up on her,
Like I said I blew up on her, and with DH being offshore and working nights it's ok for her to have my number....and most the time when DH is home he doesn't want his phone around.
She has been very careful about calling to talk to SS though and typically text if he's around to see of I will let him call if DH doesn't answer.
Best part is now that she's more careful she is also more comfortable and will act like I'm her friend like she did this past weekend pretty much from telling us no one was around SS to she lets her boyfriend stay around the house a substantial amount of time when she threw a hissy I was barely around SS and told DH to go with her to take SS trick or treating the first year they were split/we were together. (They split in April we got together mid October). I just hope she continues to be comfortable and digs herself a hole....
Block her or change your #
Block her or change your # and don't give her the new #. You have no obligation to her whatsoever. My SD's BM does not and never will have my #. There is no reason for it.