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Submitted by jojo68 on Mon, 07/22/2013 - 10:27am

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My SD13 controls her father to the point that it makes me literally ill to watch. It is absolutely ridiculous...this article describes her to a tee.

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/characteristics-of-a-controlling-personal...

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Mon, 07/22/2013 - 10:30am

To be blunt, I think you can blame her all you want, but he lets her. He's allowing it to happen. HE is the one who needs to see that it's damaging her long term.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Mon, 07/22/2013 - 11:38am

I agree with Anon. You're blaming the wrong person. Your DH is the adult and he's allow his 13 year old kid to call the shots.

The problem isn't the kid, it's the adult.

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Submitted by TASHA1983 on Mon, 07/22/2013 - 11:51am

I agree that the father is allowing/enabling her atrocious behavior by not putting a stop to it BUT I also think that she is also taking full advantage of him being a coward who can't/won't properly parent/discipline his kid. just my take/op on it.

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Submitted by jojo68 on Mon, 07/22/2013 - 12:59pm

Oh I totally agree that a lot of it is DH's fault but it takes a particular personality to take advantage of the situation (and this situation is extreme) and this is what I am addressing and trying to better understand. Not everyone who encounters a weak person is going to take advantage of them. JMO

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Submitted by jojo68 on Mon, 07/22/2013 - 2:41pm

Again...I am not saying that this is not DH fault in part. DH has put his foot down...she lays on the guilt trip or annoys him to the point that to keep his sanity he gives in...I think this is one of those situations that you have to be in his and my shoes to understand. Unless you see first hand what goes on then you could not understand and all points taken.

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Submitted by jojo68 on Mon, 07/22/2013 - 2:43pm

I just though that any of you all who has to deal with a manipulative person in your life...this article might help you to understand Smile