I don't know how to handle this situation anymore. I usually just take it day to day and handle it fine, but I'm dreading it even more today. SD11 comes back this evening from being at her grandparents house for the past week. Normally, BM would get her supervised visits every other weekend, but since BM tried to run the supervisor over, all visits with that facility have been cancelled and will no longer take place. Ever. So, DH lets SD go over to her grandparents house to visit her other brother and sister(grandparents have custody of BM's 2 children) and the rest of BM's family.

I hate to say it out loud and admit it, but DH, DD7, DS4, and myself are pretty happy when SD is not here. None of us say it out loud or even mention anything of the sort, but the vibes around here are pretty great. It's sad actually, but SD11 has such an unpleasant attitude toward everything and everyone that when she isn't here, we're happy.

It's been a week since SD11 has been here and our home just has 'happy family' vibes flowing through it, and when SD gets here this evening, I know the feelings are going to disappear and I'm going to feel the tension again and I am REALLY dreading that! SD11 isn't really misbehaved, but she is an emotional wreck and she seems to enjoy it. She loves attention and will do whatever she needs to do to gain the attention that she craves. She isn't lacking in the attention department either. DH offers all the time if SD would like to do something with him(when DD and DS are busy with something else) and every time SD will refuse. Every. Time. She will refuse quality time with DH and then pout and say she doesn't feel good when DH goes on to either something else or plays with DD and DS. She says she doesn't feel good or she has some weird pain and uses it to get attention from DH. I know she feels fine because she only says she doesn't feel good when either 1. she doesn't want to do something or 2. wants everyone to stop having fun and focus on her. Theres a pattern I've noticed.

I'm just tired of the emotional roller coaster that is SD11. I dread her unpleasant vibes and attitude. I despise her 'pity me' attitude. Ugh.