Screwed on both ends
This is my first blog, but I am just so upset right now I swear I am holding back tears. I have raised my 2 BD myself for 10 years with no support from my ex. While he has continued to do nothing with his life but for forth and multiply 9 kids total by 8 different women. In my divorce not only was I awarded child support, I was also awarded his VA disability check - may only be $100.00 but it was my $100.00. A couple of years ago the ex got wild hair up his ass and changed the direct deposit information from my account to his....After 4 years of working with the VA I get a letter in the mail stating my request for this disability check has been declined
Reason being....
"An apportionment may be granted only if a hardship is shown, The evidence as described above not show that a financial hardship exists."
All the mean time my new husband of 2 years has paid every penny in child support, half of every expense imaginable, and yet the woman is still a psycho, DH is currently unemployed and still paying support and carrying medical insurance.
Ok I work my ass of we to pay my bills and give my girls nice clothes and material things that make preteens happy. I making a modest living, by working hard. A value I was instant on showing them
BUT WHAT THE HELL? MY TAXES DOLLARS GOING TO HIM EVERY MONTH HE IS OVER 100K IN ARREARAGES. AND NOW I HAVE PSYCHO BITCH CALLING MY DH ASKING FOR HIM TO PAY HALF OF THE KIDS SCHOOL SUPPLIES, AND SCHOOL CLOTHES?
I FEEL THE NEED TO IMPLODE
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Dang Libby,
Are we freaking twins? I am in the same boat almost. I have been married for almost a year to a wonderful man - whose BM is a complete psycho (not only ask for half of everything on top of receiving about $800.00 a month CS.) who has filed false abuse charges against us and is taking us to court to try and stop joint custody and visitation. She asked for 1/2 of $7.50 last year. Which is just amazing.
BUT my daughter who is 14 has never received a dime of child support - her dad is over 40K behind in support and the Division of Child Support Enforcement folks closed my case back in 2006 without telling me - because he claimed my husband adopted her. Well I was not married in 2006 - so what in the hell was he even talking about I don't know. I just found out in 2009 it was closed and they are giving me a hard time to reopen the case. It is amazing, how hard a time they are giving me because he lied.
But all i can say do is to take it one day at a time. I really have no other good advice - I am in the thick of things and trying to survive myself.
Hopefully some of the more seasoned ladies on here can give us both good advice.
Yes the false charges
We go to court on an average of 2 - 3x's per year on false charges...we have been asked to split $1.76 and to meet her a CVS since it was for medicine, the gas cost us more to drive there
had my case closed because ex's mother told them he lived in another state all the mean time he was living with her.
SO TODAY IS A NEW DAY I BEING THE BREAD WINNER WILL NO LONGER SUPPORT HER AND HER HALF THIS EXPENSE - MY DH IS OFF WORK AND I WILL NOT HAVE MY CHILDREN BARE THE BURDEN OF HER INABILITY TO SUPPORT HER CHILDREN WITH ANY EXTRA $210.00 A WEEK IN CHILD SUPPORT
You know the funny thing
That I believe my children will come out so much healthier, productive and independent. My children have learned from a very early age you can only truly rely on yourself, they never learned I will tell mom this so dad will do this, and the other way around. I feel a lot of these children are abused by the court system and the PAS mentality empossed by the "BM" - these false charges are only learning how to lie and manipulate - thus too instilling the "SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT" that so many of them seem to have, and not the "SENSE OF ACHIEVEMENT, ACCOMPLISHMENT)