So I might sound completely selfish here, but i've noticed that after these huge fights between DH & BM, DH will go for a really long period of time without seeing or talking to SKs. I don't think he means to cut them out, but I think he would rather stay away than have to go through BM. This has kind of been a cycle since we met & I think he did basically the same thing when they were married. I should also point out that I can't make DH do anything, he's as stubborn as me & we've really had an interesting time with that. But even though SKs are awful little beasts & I feel bad for them, these are the best times of our relationship. I don't have to worry about surprise visits, we can do more with BS1, he's less moody & more relaxed. I find myself thinking that this is how it should always be. Sooner or later it ends & I hear the awful sound of SS4 screeching for daddy like the melodic sound of nails of on chalkboard & we're back where we started with table manners, present demanding & me piling on the extra hours on DH's days off so I minimise time spent at home, but it seems like this is happening more & the quiet time lasts longer. Maybe the day will come when they are PASed out of my life. I know it's not right, but I hope so. ~Bookgirl~