We recently allowed my stepson to go to his sister's(bio mom's daughter with another man) birthday party on our time. It wasn't a super big deal. Why his mother planned it during the time that stepson would be at our house was a mystery to me but, whatever.

The first favor that she asked was just last weekend. Now she is asking for another favor. She wants to bump up her vacation time with stepson to right after school lets out. This would limit my husband's time with his son in the month of May to only about a week(not back to back days). None of this time would be a weekend. Biomom would have all of the weekends in May(do to Mother's Day) including Memorial Day weekend.

My husband feels like he is stuck between a rock and a hard place. He isn't comfortable with this request, even though he really won't be losing any days. He won't be able to see his son or probably talk to him often, as biomom wants to take my stepson out of state for 10 days. My husband is used to being involved in stepson's day to day activities since he is the custodial parent.

So, we try to be nice and we try to be flexible and it seems like she will just keep pushing it. Should my husband just say "no" we should stick to the original schedule and nip all of these favors before things get out of hand? I just don't know. I guess that is what we get for trying to be nice about things!!!

Dawn