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Stick's picture

Submitted by Stick on Fri, 05/29/2009 - 10:58am

Of course I feel that BioMom is crazy, stupid and selfish (that's why I'm here!!). However, I think that some of the stuff she does is not about ME, it's about HER. She'd be crazy, stupid and selfish whether I am in the picture or not! She'd be crazy, stupid and selfish, pulling all of the same crap if my DH were still single, or if he were married to someone else - anyone else for that matter. Because the world OWES her!! If I were a model maybe she'd be crazier, but I don't think she can get much more stupid! Anyway, the sentiment I'm wondering about for you all is, if you think that BioMom BS isn't about you, it's her BS whether you were there or not, does it help you through the day? Does it make you chuckle that the theory of evolution stopped at her biological tree? Or that natural selection happened to fail in her case?? Or does it just make you angrier that something like that is sucking up the oxygen on our planet instead of that oxygen going to a nice tree or something??? Just something else to think about!!

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Amazed's picture

Submitted by Amazed on Fri, 05/29/2009 - 11:10am

if it's my fault his exbeast is so horrid..but then I hear all the stories from his sister and his dad and i know her first hand also and I realize that some of it is because of me but MOST of it is because that's just who she is. I feel sorry for most smoms on here because the bm's they deal with seem to be superduper insane crazy. This bm I deal with is just a scatterbrained,lazy,money grubbing freak who thinks she and her daughter are royalty but the rest of the world is filled with dirty peasants beneath their feet. I do agree about that waste of oxygen thing though!

"We all have different desires and needs, but if we don't discover what we want from ourselves and what we stand for, we will live passively and unfulfilled.”

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Fri, 05/29/2009 - 1:12pm

Loud, ignorant, lazy and rude..that is why FH left her in the first place..it hasn't changed it..so it never will...

"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"

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Submitted by melis070179 on Fri, 05/29/2009 - 3:39pm

In my case, it IS about me. She hates that she can't control my DH, manipulate him, guilt him, and that his priorities are me and our kids, not her. She HATES that. I am the only relationship he's had since they divorced 8 years ago, so for 4 years she liked that he was single. Too flippin bad I say!

"You never realize how short a month is until you pay child support"

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Submitted by Rags on Fri, 05/29/2009 - 4:06pm

I am not talking about people who make the occasional poor decision. We all do that from time to time. I am talking about people who are incapable of learning from their mistakes, do the same thing over and over while expecting a different result, never take responsibility for their own actions and are eternal victims.

Those people should not be allowed to breath IMHO. Wink You are absolutely right that in the case of stupid people that evolution bypassed them.

I for one have determined that putting mirrors in front of stupid people is a great hobby, even a sport. When BioDad gets stupid I just hold up the mirror with one hand and keep uncoiling the rope with the other so that he can run as far and as fast as he can before he hangs himself.

Stupid people I pretty much just use for entertainment. Someone who shows an inkling of cognition and is willing to work to improve themselves I will help to fullest extent of my ability.

I think that many in the blended family opposition would have issue with whoever entered their kid's or XSpouse's lives. Those are the pinnacle of stupid people and provide the most entertainment value for your mirror and rope investment.

Let them keep proving to the world that they are stupid, in fact help them make it progressively more evident by aiding them in baring their asses publicly as ofter an you can. It is particularly entertaining to do it in court or larger extended family gatherings.

It is loads of fun.

Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi

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Submitted by Wicked2Three on Fri, 05/29/2009 - 6:12pm

It has NOTHING to do with me!

What a revelation it was the moment it hit me. The clouds opened up, the sun beamed through and you could hear the angels sing. It was beautiful! It has taken me 6 years to "get it".

I could have been anyone. It's not me. It's her. I could have had an affair with DH or met him 200 years after they divorced. The timing wouldn't have mattered. It's not the timing. It's her.

She was miserable when they were married and that is why he left her. Him leaving was not going to miraculously make her a happy person. It's a proven fact.

I am still waiting for the day that I truly feel sorry for her. I am working on it, daily.

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Submitted by Nymh on Sat, 05/30/2009 - 9:18am

It's all about her, always has been. Though it is partially about me, because I am the first serious relationship BF has had since her, and the only one she has deemed as a threat to her power over him. So in a way, it is me, but if it were anyone else in my situation she'd be exactly the same. So I guess the accurate way to say it is, it's not about me PERSONALLY, just the position that I hold in BF's and SS's life.

Knowing that doesn't really help much. It is easier for me to cope knowing that I didn't do anything wrong and she doesn't hate ME, just the place that I hold. But it still offends me and saddens me that someone can be so crazy, self-centered, stalkery, and abusive toward her child.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*