to feel obligated to take care of skids when you really don't like them around the house to even look at them? DH loves his son and he is with us 62% of the time. SS is really hard to deal with when coming back from BM's or in general. SS has turned into a liar, excepts to be waited on hand and foot, complains all the time and backtalks DH big time. At BM's house the whole world revolves around SS. At our house there is DH, BD and I along with SS living there. He is 8 and can't pull his chair in? Can't help bring groceries in? Can't get other people napkins or utensils? Condiments for his food? Lies about throwing trash away? The list can go on and on. The backtalk to DH is what bothers me the most. DH has been a lot better but if my BD talked to me the way SS does sometimes, she would be through the window. I'm afraid to do anything to the kid because BM would act on it.