A Lesson for all DHs who are too passive
When BM and DH divorced, BM was given physical custody with DH having EOW. He has let BM dictate the schedule and change when convenient. He went along with the ruling at the time because him and BM were getting along and he felt he could trust her.
WRONG! BM's new BF lives out of the country and wants her to move with him, and she said she is going to! And because of my DH's vague court order, according to an attorney he went for a consult for, it will be a bit harder for him to fight her move!
So last night he was asking himself what was he thinking to let her have all the control, especially since he is such an involved dad (though the order says EOW, we have them way more than that, they have their own rooms, participate in sports here etc).
Unfortunately this is a lesson he needed to learn, though the hard way. I feel bad for him, but if he covered all of this from the beginning, we wouldn't have this problem now.
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My DH stopped BM from moving
My DH stopped BM from moving to another state which in my opinion was the stupidest thing ever. He should have let her ass leave never to be seen or heard from again.
Wishful thinking.
He told her if she wanted to leave he would agree if she let him have the kids for the summers and when they were off from school, she refused so he cockblocked her entire move.
Is there any way your DH can
Is there any way your DH can prove how involved he is? If he can prove a de facto visitation schedule has been in place, he does have a fighting chance. Aside from the CO, the courts frown upon changing what the children have become accustomed to - regardless what the CO is or has been. At least, that's the way it is in CA.
I would consult someone else.
I would consult someone else. Out of the country is almost always frowned upon unless military moves because there is no court authority.
That being said, we stopped BM from moving 400 miles away with EOW & one dinner date during the off week. Course BM later dropped her off & moved anyway, so be careful what you wish for. Good Luck.
I would be jumping for joy
I would be jumping for joy and doing the biggest happy dance of my life if DH's ex and skid were moving that far away!! I know the OP's situation is different, but I just wanted to comment and say how envious I am because I would give anything if she would just disappear.