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Submitted by vikki0 on Fri, 02/22/2013 - 4:40pm

I haven't been on this site for long, and I haven't really made connections with any of you here, but I just needed to tell someone about this and Steptalk seemed like the best choice. When I posted about my exSO, I got support and great advice, so... I don't really have anyone else to talk about this, tbh.

My ex has a new girlfriend. I saw him and SDs out with her. She seems to bow down to SDs wishes- ex was walking between the SDs, the girl was pushed to the side... Didn't seem to be bothered by it. She even ran off to buy popcorn for them, but nothing for her and ex.

A coworker of mine knows him and she told me that SDs control everything, and that the woman has no say in anything, and that the SDs seem happy with that and accepting of her. Well of course. I'd accept a servant too.

I know he's not that much of a good man and he's a horrible boyfriend,but I was and probably still in love with him. So this hurts.
What hurts even more is that I to him was just someone to please his children and him, but get nothing in return. I wish I didn't feel like this, but this is all I can think about lately.

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Kilgore SMom's picture

Submitted by Kilgore SMom on Fri, 02/22/2013 - 4:46pm

You will find someone someday that cares and wants to treat you as you treat him. Don't go for anything less. We do not get with these men to cater to their children or become a built in baby sitter. To be treated with disrepect and made to feel second best. The new girl will get sick of being treated that way someday. Hold your head high and know that God has something good in store for you. ((Hug))

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Fri, 02/22/2013 - 5:06pm

Hell, I'd be happy that you're out of the situation! I know it hurts right now, but time will heal and you'll find someone way better than ex!

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Submitted by Jsmom on Sat, 02/23/2013 - 9:16am

He is an idiot, way too soon to introduce anyone to the SD's. But, he is creating little monsters that will make any woman's life hell. Be glad you escaped.

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Submitted by fedup13 on Mon, 02/25/2013 - 8:27pm

This post is something I fear. I know it is silly, but my fear is that if I leave, DH will find a new sucker asap, but instead of calling him out on all of the insanity, she buckles to it all, pretends to love skid, babie him, coddles him, just like DH and everyone else in his family does, in order to get in good and suck up with skid, DH, and MIL, and then I am really the wicked stepmother that they are all glad to be rid of, when in reality, skid is nuts, they are nuts, and me, the sane one, the one who saw them all for what they really are, is the only one with any sense or backbone. I cannot stand the idea of another woman coming in to this and being like so many other women out there, women that will fake it, tolerate anything to keep a man, and give DH that false sense of being right that he would so love to have, and all of my suffering, grief, heartache, and stress, all the hard work I have put into this marriage will have been for nothing because some desperate and dumb twit comes in and makes him think skid is just darling because she knows tht will keep him happy. Ugh.