SD's return is upon me
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We will be leaving soon to make the 2 hour one way trip to pick SD14. That means 2 hours in the car with her on our way back. I never look forward to these trips. Hopefully she will sleep and I won't have to be subjected to her drama. I purposely put off cleaning the house yes so I would have something to keep me busy today and not have to be in the same room with and DH as her first day back seems to be the worse with all the noise in my once quiet home. Time to bite the bullet. I'm sure there will be more venting to come.
That is old. That could be
That is old. That could be considered elder abuse.
Yeah. I'm going to let DH
Yeah. I'm going to let DH know I don't want to go on these trips.
So we're home and it didn't take long before she asked how much further til we got home. Seriously we just picked you up like 15 minutes ago. DH told her it would be a while and she sighed her sighed. Just go to sleep already.
Now that we are home the disengagement has begun. It feels good but still need to tell her my rules. I don't foresee any issues with this until she fails to follow one.
15 minutes into a 2 hour trip
15 minutes into a 2 hour trip she's taken many times and she wants to know how much longer. Is she retarded?
No. Just a whiny baby. She
No. Just a whiny baby. She was wanting us to stop and get her something to eat. DH told her he didn't have any cash but we had food at the house and she'd be ok until we got home. That's when the whining started. How about you get up little earlier and eat something before you leave?
Good luck with the visit.
Good luck with the visit. And good idea to have a plan about how to spend your time so you can cope. My mom suggested earplugs so I can tune out the SS16 and I have done it on occasion! Anytime he's in the car with us more than 15 mins is draining. Talks about himself, his mom, and his narrow interests. Burps constantly ON PURPOSE, and laughs. Continue with the disengagement.
Rules have been communicated
Rules have been communicated and her dad witnessed that she understands. Now i get to sit back andl see how it takes before I have to take her phone and the computer away. Ball is in her court.
DH will be forced to step up as well. He can tell there is change in my demeanor but I just respond that everything is fin.
The stress has left me and I feel so much better.