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I have an interesting question for you step dads on here. My df was with his ex since atleast 2 of the skids were very young (he has 4 skids), im not sure why but the biodad was not in the pic at all. After their divorce he coninued raising the skids, w/o any help from the bm. She already had a guy moved in one day when df came home from work one night. So she just dumped her kids on him. I understand that he considers them his kids due to raising them so long and being the only father figure they had and I respect him for that. I just wonder what other stepdads on here would of done in the same situation.

Absolutely not. I would not

Absolutely not. I would not have done it because they are biomom's kids, and biomom's responsibility. I could understand if he wanted to have visits with them, but taking custody and letting the bioparents have no responsibility? Hell no!

I'm not a dad but I am a mom

I'm not a dad but I am a mom and I can see myself doing what he did if I had been raising the children for some time.

No way! Not unless she

No way! Not unless she wanted to sign away her parental rights, and probably not even then!

My FDH would have done it

My FDH would have done it with his ex SD. He raised her from 4-12 then BM gave his two bio's to him and a year later gave exSD to her parents...signed over rights and all. He would have jumped at the chance to have her back but BM's parents haven't let him see her and it's been 3 years. It's a crappy situation all the way around and the ones I feel sorry for are the Skids because the SP's and BP's knew what the risks were. FDH didn't think to adopt her when he was married to BM, and he's lost her because of it.

My own step dad did everything for us even after he divorced my mom...guess to each their own.

I cant say that I wouldn't in

I cant say that I wouldn't in the same situation, I had a ss (4 yrs old) in my second marriage that if I had stayed with my ex I would of considered my own even though we divorced, but i would of probably adopted him. His BM signed over/lost her rights later on and moved very far away. My ex moved to another state (only two hours away) after the divorce so I would have to share custody and all that crap... I can understand both points of view, i just wish the skids would respect him (my df) more for the sacrifices he made. I also wonder what would of happened if a major medical situation would of came up. He never adopted to them. Thanks for the feed back.

My mom was 'in love' with my

My mom was 'in love' with my dad by the time she was 13. Somehow, she ended up having a baby with another man when she was 16-and tried to pin the child on my father. He didn't fall for it. She married, and quickly divorced the other guy, then she and my father got back together.

Mom and Dad (sounds weird to say it together) went on to have two more children, and my father was raising the 3 of us girls. Then when the oldest (the 'not his' girl) was 10 or 11, my mom went to prison. My parents were split at this time, and my dad married my step-mom soon before or after this time (I was only 3, so not quite sure if it was before or after).

My dad took care of my oldest sister and tried to raise her as his own, as he had done for so many years. However, the oldest sister was a major bitch, and still is to this day, nearly 3 decades later. He tried, he tried to get her the mental help he felt she needed, he tried to get her involved in sports or whatever in school, he tried his damnedest to help this child. When my mother got out of prison 4 years later, he quickly handed her back, and has tried to forget about her. She still shows up occasionally, and they are cordial to one another but she was/is a pathological liar, ungrateful, self absorbed... just something that couldn't be fixed.

Thats how one of the oldest

Thats how one of the oldest skid is, she is not too mental, but she is a biatch...One of the skids has suicidal tendencies though. Only when it seems to get attention though. She used to be a cutter and she says she hears voices. Atleast she did right before she moved out of the house. right in the middle of little tantrum she stopped for about 15 seconds and looked at me to see if i was scared...i just smiled and turned the tv up. She hasnt been around much since then.