Well since the last visit when myself and the SD16 got into the huge blow out knock em out drag out fight.. I went the extra mile and talked to her. Expressing basically that in my house that will not be tolerated. I will not give in to screaming or yelling and I will not be disrespected in my home. Along with a lot of other things. I did tell her that I would never forbid her to come to my home. That her attitude regarding rules etc will be her choice. She is welcome but has to abide by the rules. It's that simple. And I am going to make it that simple. It will be her choice if she comes or not. This past weekend she chose to not come. And I was FINE with that. And in fact all 4 boys had a great time this past weekend. No drama. No screaming so this is what I want we aren't doing anything else or I will make life hell for everyone else. All in all it was a quiet yet good weekend that gave my DH time with his boys that wasn't cut short because of her crappy attitude.
Ok so here is the killer today..... the ex wife called. She left her boyfriend of 4 years and has called to see if my DH knows of any schools around our area that she can attend so she can move home. I'm thinking ok she calls to alert him that the kids will no longer be 6 hours away. That's GREAT! But my DH isn't her go to "man" and hasn't been for 4 years. Now that she has kicked her current to the curb now she is leaning towards my DH. I am feeling some anger and some other feelings regarding her moving back here. I have seen how she can tear him down with just one comment and now she is coming back and already seeking his help for school etc? Seriously?
I draw the line at any emotional support she is seeking.... I just hope he will to.