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Submitted by sakurachan on Fri, 01/01/2016 - 2:08am

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Blended Family Issues

I am seriously angry and discouraged. My husband has broken so many things since we have gotten married over 5 years ago, (he moved in to my house with my kids after we were married). Well his oldest daughter has the same tendencies she broke the button panel off of a new dishwasher a few days ago, no one told me about it until I discovered it tonight. I'm seriously considering breaking her phone or hiding it as well as something my husband holds dear so they understand how it feels. My husband was fired from a job at the end of 2014 because he was talking to a friend while they were walking together and he accidentally hit a girl coming up beside him in the breast. He was out of work for almost a year and now we are financially struggling, thank goodness he just got a new job in October. Today while I was at work my husband broke the furnace! Between the two things I lost it. I'm so tired of trying to have nice things only to have them destroyed. I'm not an eye for an eye kind of person but these two need to learn to be more aware and not take other's things for granted. Can I please just not be an adult for awhile and carry through with my plan? Please! I'm desperate for some accountability life lessons for the two of them.

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Submitted by dirtybiology on Fri, 01/01/2016 - 1:25pm

I think what's most frustrating is that they don't tell you right away and let you figure it out. That's rude and not being accountable. I'm sorry.

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Submitted by Cover1W on Fri, 01/01/2016 - 3:51pm

I get where you are coming from about broken things.
I do not have any of my good dishware put out and when we moved I refused to put my money into new dishes. DP bought the dishware himself and I got everything else at thrift stores.

We have a recent problem with SDs breaking things (see my "Aftermath" blog posts) and hiding items or denying the action. I truly believe this is because they 1) weren't taught to respect their things or others things 2) the house is not a gym 3) don't force something to turn/open/lift if it doesn't do it easily or ask for help and 4) no ramifications if anything was broken in the past.

I have removed and thrown away broken towel bars and hooks, handles, doorknobs, Tupperware containers, clothing, etc. How do I handle it? DP alone replaces it or I don't replace it. No Tupperware? Not my problem. No handle on your closet door (newly installed and yanked off)? Not my problem. I am very watchful of expensive things like my furniture or wine glasses. It's taken lots of talking with DP but he understands better now...but still has lapses.