How do you make your blended family work?
I find it VERY tough. I have 3 kids from my previous marriage, DH has one child (8) and we are expecting one child together. My XDH is not at all in the picture so there is no dealing with that. But I have to deal with SD8's BM. I resent them both and I know this is hard on my DH because I cannot stand his daughter. She is a little "mini me" of BM.
It seems as though there is always conflict surrounding DH's X and his daughter as both of them are pulling crap all the time. Lying, manipulation ect.
How do I make this work? I just want to have a happy home life while raising my family but this is such a huge issue for me.
SD8 came home today from spending the night at BM's house and now I get to look forward to a week of rotten behavior. DH works all day so I am her primary care giver.
As SMs are we suppose to just tolerate everything and keep our mouths shut to keep the peace? It seems the only way to keep everyone happy is if I just shut my mouth and tolerate it. I am getting to fed up with BM's antics and manipulation.
How does everyone else make this shit work?
P.S. I don't know how that
P.S. I don't know how that smiley face showed up on the post....I was not meaning to sound happy and "cool(per the shades!)
You are in a tough spot. Most
You are in a tough spot. Most of us here are so welcome! Do your SD's live with you? Is BM remarried?
My DH has full custody so
My DH has full custody so yes, we live together. BM is not married, she was never married to my DH. She seems to have a new boyfriend every six months. She just got her son back after being charged with abandonment by the state of California and just had another baby from a one night stand. That father has completely dropped her and signed off on his parental rights because he was smart and saw what kind of person she is within 3 months.
SD8 is just exactly like her mother and it turns my stomach to even look at her. (Awful sounding I know)
My DH and I have a great relationship, besides this HUGE issue. I just don't know how to "get over it" all, shut my mouth and tolerate it. I don't understand how so many step moms can do this so eloquently. I sure as hell can't.
Shit dont work. thats why we
Shit dont work. thats why we need ST to keep our homicidal thoughts fantasy and not reality