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Does this make me a bad person?

girlmeetsworld714's picture

My BF of 3 years is in a custody battle with both his children's mothers trying to get 50/50 of both kids (5 and 3). BM#2 is Satan in woman form and is using the defense that my BF is only trying to get SD3 so that I can "play mommy" and is trying to convince SD5's BM that that's all he wants her for, too. Is it bad that I honestly don't care if they are with us 50% of the time or not? Like I love them, but I also love our time when it's only us. I'm more worried about child support ending and being able to start my life together with BF (and his kids obviously). The system has totally screwed him over and has taken thousands of dollars from him illegally in the past 2 years and he is getting that worked out, but won't be officially done with until custody is finished. I'm excited to be able to finally have money to start a family with him and the kids when this is over, but I by no means want to be these children's "mommy." Does that make me heartless?

Disneyfan's picture

Holy cow

Many of the details posted reminds me of a thread I read a few day ago on a disney planning site.

Please tell me you're not inviting the 5 year old's mom on your family trip to Disney World next fall.

asnoraford's picture

Please know that you are financially bound to these women for another 15 years. And if you are supporting this court action and custodial change for the money, I do think that you need to consider that financial support can be changed any time. A win for cash tomorrow, may end up being a loss next year.

If the thought of spending this amount of time with the kids makes you cringe a little, perhaps this is not the life you want to choose. Think about how much cringing you'll be doing in 5 years from now, dealing with the same kids, the same crazy ex's, the same court battles. Stepfamilies are not easy. But I wouldn't trade mine for the world.