Lucky you!! My inlaws bow down to SD15 and pretend DD10 and BD3 don't exist. If we ask them to babysit after about an hour or so they call to see where we are and when we will be home. We tried to go to a movie then dinner and they called about 4 times during the movie so we had to get the kids and bring them to dinner with us. Needless to say we don't ask them to babysit anymore. But they have no problem letting SD15 sleep over all the time and they take her shopping and go out of their way to make sure she gets to eat what she wants. Oh yeah and the last time we were dropping off the kids they called and said we should get Mcdonalds on the way for the kids. And BD3 is the cutest, sweetest little girl in the whole world who would love to have a grandmother to dote on her. So sad!

No, we are out of grandpas, both grandmas are disabled one is far away, I have a grandmotherly type eighbor who has been a big help but she's a meddler.

NOPE.

MIL lives 10 minutes away, and she only visits for a hour at the most when SD visits. She never volunteers to do anything with her...80% of the time DH asks her to do something with SD she "has plans"...Let her tell it though, she's GMOTY...

FIL lives in another state...

I agree with Nosteppingstone.... HRNYC you really do just comment such negative things towards soooo many people here. You really need to be more supportive if you are going to be here... This is a site to vent, support, be supported, to not feel so alone, ect. Yes people are going to have their opinions, yes people might give you advise that may hurt your feelings BUT I truly feel you have not been supportive in any way. Everytime I read a comment from you I feel it is completely negative, antagonising, very unsupportive and mean. I have yet to read a blog from you about your BM, skid, DH, and family trials. I do not see why you are here. If you want to vent, get some support, give some advise, GREAT!! But you have yet to do any of those things.

Maybe you are just very bitter and hurt in the life you lead, the way you are treated, ect. I do not know. I'm trying to give you the benefit of the doubt here in hoping that maybe you are lashing out a bit at everyone here that says that something in their life is going good at the moment or at someone who is seeking support and maybe since you may not receive these things from the ones you love, you are being this way. Again, I do not know these things because you haven't really posted much about your personal life.

I just hope that if you are here seeking knowledge, support, friendship, to know you are not alone... That you will start allowing the other users the same right and stop being such a downer. The people on here are truly wonderful and have helped me out so much. I hope to be able to lend a word of advice and help them as they have me. I do not wish to see anyone be mean, cruel, spiteful, ect towards any of them because quite frankly all of our lives are hard enough, painful enough, filled with such entitled, cruel, mean people that they do not deserve it here. On a site that offers all of us, including you, a safe haven.

If there are people here not seeking these things then I do wish that they would just leave those that are alone and go elsewhere. I do know that I have been on here for several months and I have only seen a few that have come off and said things that were truly wrong. Everyone here is very kind, open minded, supportive and willing to help anyone they can. If you can not do this, then why damper on those who are???

Just a thought for you to think about.

My inlaws live half the country away, so no help there. However, when we visit every summer they are very happy to take the kids so DH and I can do our own thing. We spent a day in NYC last year My parents will take our BD9mos when they can, but neither of them have things to do at their houses for a SD5 or SS7 (I'm an only child, parents are divorced, neither really has "kid things" readily accessible), plus, they're not actually their grandkids.

My in-laws live 3 hours away so they don't help as much as they would like because of time constraints. Both of them work, but they make a point to try and get down here now and then when possible to give us a break. They really are fantastic people. My one complaint, maybe, would be that grandma lets the boy do anything and everything and he basically reverts to a toddler that barely speaks when she's around. We pointed it out and she at least stopped the whole letting him point and grunt for things and insists he uses his words now. I think it is mostly because she only gets to see him once a month or every other month right now the way schedules are so she tends to not want to say "no."

Nope...not yet. My motherinlaw past away before i could ever meet her. My fatherinlaw is in his 80's. God bless him! He is a wonderful man but i would never leave him with my son. At least for not the entire day. lol.
And my father and stepmother live far from us to be any help but have offered if the need ever arises.
I think anyone who gets help from grandparents side are soooo lucky. Gives parents a break. And it is sad to see cases where the grandparent will put one on a glamour stage and ignore the others. That , in my opinion, is uncalled for and actually DISGUSTING!. Its up to your husband or wife if its their parents, to basically put them aside and be stern and tell them off. And continually put them in their place should they persist. Unfortunately you cannot change these type of people but you can at least make it very clear where you stand. All the kids are their grandkids.