We blended when our kids were young=my two oldest kids were 2, and 9months, and his son was 1. So we thought they would bond quite naturally and easily. HA! We did lots of trips and family activities, but I can quite safely say ss does not really have a bond with any of us and I think he does not want to. After literally years of him shoving this message in all of our faces, my kids have learned to just primarily stay away from him. For the longest time, he would come over and my kids would go to friends houses, or hang out with me who was also avoiding ss. So just dh and ss would hang out.

We are currently giving it one last chance. Seriously this is it. If things dont work out with ss visiting at this point, i am done with it. We have put some things in place to ease the transition and build the bond slowly. SS only is coming over one day a week at this point. It is a day that we have scheduled activities already so we are all together for chunks of time but not necessarily interacting every moment. This forces some togetherness, but not necessarily a need to interact. Takes the pressure off. WE also have some "downtime" scheduled in there so if parties need to take a break from one another they can. Also boundaries in place-ss doesnt enter the other kids rooms, etc. If this goes well for some months we may move on to more signifcant visits.

Honestly, since the bond is NOT there at this point with bios and skids-I would think a trip that long in the car and that much family togetherness would be incredibly stressful. If you want to work on bonding-perhaps you could do so more slowly-like with an afternoon out to a movie together or somehting. But I would not give up my time with my kids-I would go on vaca with them and let dh take his kids to disney.

Dont force it. Just like in school and life there are some that you bond with and some that you dont. They dont care for each other and that is okay, as long as they dont physically harm each other. Not everyone is meant to be friends and be buddy buddy.

I really don't think you can/should force it. My children want nothing to do with skids, but it's easier since mine are out on their own. I usually try to invite them over on non-skid days.

How often do you have skids? If it's just an every other weekend thing, I wouldn't worry too much about it. I would, however, insist that everyone eat at the same table for dinner. A long road trip together, is too much to ask, tho. I also would NEVER take a kid to Disney if he didn't want to go. What's the point?

Step families are not natural. Don't force bonding. It will only lead to resentments later on.