Should We Send It Or Not?
Despite all of the drama and immaturity on the part of my SS and his fiance - my husband and I wish to still send the fiance a birthday card. Her birthday is coming up this month.
We don't "hate" her, but we are just very disappointed at her behavior.
Despite the fact she is a royal pain to us at this moment, we would still like to tell her in a card, that we wish her a happy birthday. Nothing mushy, but a nice generic card. We actually had already purchased a card to send, before all of this drama began.
Our question also applies to Thanksgiving and Christmas Cards for them.
We won't be sending anything to my DH's daughter or her husband, because we have been "banned" from sending them anything through the mail. 
Fine with us, it will save us time and postage. 
So, any suggestions? I don't receive a Mother's Day card or Birthday wishes from them, but I don't want to act as immature as they are. We want to try and set a good example. 
I would just tell her Happy
I would just tell her Happy Birthday through this site and she will see it.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA - OMG I just
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA - OMG I just about squirted Mountain Dew out my nose!
Send it. Be the bigger
Send it. Be the bigger person. Who's got the sig line that says, "Taking the high road gives me a f'ing nose bleed?" It's so true, but I still do it every time. It catches people like that off-guard
I HATE buying cards, and I
I HATE buying cards, and I refuse to buy them for any occasion that doesn't involve the card and/or money inside it to be the sole gift. In this case, I would say the card is MORE than enough.
Directed at Echo's comment, I always stop in wonder at stores when I see cards for miscellaneous holidays. Completely O/T to this thread, but I am really wondering if anyone buys cards for holidays like Halloween, Thanksgiving, or Easter or actually receives them...
Hey OilandWater and
Hey OilandWater and Snickergal, LOFL!!!
I just might do BOTH!
I have NO ILLUSIONS that I will be getting anything back in return in ANY way - except attitude.
We just feel it might be a good idea to show them that you can really be irritated with someone, but you can still wish them a happy birthday.
Thanks for input. We will probably decide at the last minute.
I will have to think up something to write and post here - something REALLY UNIQUE!
You put in enough effort with
You put in enough effort with them, let DH take over. Part of what may be fueling this sick drama is that you stay engaged (trying to be the better person). Back off and maybe there won't be any fuel for the fire. For awhile at least. Let them go, they don't deserve your effort or kindness.
I'm disengaged.... So
I'm disengaged.... So obviously I don't do any of the BD cards, gifts, etc, etc now. The skids are older now so are really only interested in the money DH coughs up.
He choses the cards now, and like many men just grabs the nearest one !! ( he doesn't do this for me though, as he knows my family always sends lovely cards, with handwritten messages, etc lol!)
The skids don't send him anything, not one card even..... Sd21 even memailed him before Father's Day to check our address as she was sending a card !! It never turned up, just like all the other ones she sent..... Funny that !!
After, my inlaws were royal pains in the arse a couple of years ago, I don't do cards for them now.... Why should I ? The last one I got from them, my dear MIL had spelt my name wrong ( it's not long and not unusual!) crossed it out and then tried again badly ! Gee thanks ! Don't bother if you are not sincere with the sentiment is MY motto !!
Thanks for the additional
Thanks for the additional suggestions. They all sound good. I will leave it up to my DH to send a card - if he wants. He is still pretty upset that his own son would allow his fiance to act like this, then have the nerve to play the "victim".