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SD has failed her first year of college and moved back to BM's house, now she's in search of a husband

Hatecopycats's picture

My DH takes SS12 out for dinner every other Thursday. When we went to pick him up up SD 18 car was there. ( dh and sd have not talked in over a year)

SS 12 volunteered she was out for summer but was not going back to college because her grades were so bad BM and her husband weren't paying for an apartment another year when she was failing. BTW this is a COMMUNITY COLLEGE, so I always thought it was crazy she lived in her own apartment instead of living at home!!!

Anyway BM told SD18....." you really need to start watching your weight because it will be harder to find a husband when your chubby". WTF???? So basically BM is teaching SD18 to depend on a man to take care of her instead of getting an education.

I can't say I'm surprised she failed when according to SS 12 she was missing classes due to oversleeping from getting drunk and out partying. She apparently had some final exams she missed because she went to get a tattoo and the person that does them was going on vacation the next day, so she HAD to miss the finals because the tattoo was the priority.

I've saved the best part for last.....SS12 said BM and SD 18 are blaming it all on DH!!!!! Why???
Because he would not defraud the government and fill out paperwork for FASBA saying she lived with him then preceding 12 months so she could get a FULL GRANT because of his terminal illness and her apartment and schooling would have been 100 percent free.

So let's see if I understand this.......it's ok for the government to pay for schooling and housing even if you are failing due to partying as long as it is FREE? DH would not give them his tax return nor do any paper work for her.

Her BM wouldn't pay for the apartment or schooling anymore but it's ok if the gov would have. That pisses me off....there are people who could benefit from those grants who would actually make something of themselves and take college seriously.

I'm SOOO glad my DH wouldn't do it for them. Why should they profit and exploit his leukemia when they have treated him so horribly?

Karan is slowly coming around.....SS 12 said he heard BM and her husband talking and her husband was made that they took out student loans and just for this first year owe over 18 thousand dollars.......BBAAWWHHHH. Have fun paying those back BM !!!!

Hatecopycats's picture

Exactly!!!

Her grades were horrible in HS too!!!

Bottom line she used college as the excuse to live on her own.

I feel bad for the poor schmuck she hooks, who will be supporting her.

It sounds bad but I'm glad they have been PASed out, because if we were dealing with adult skids I'd be in hell right now!!

Hatecopycats's picture

A lot of the money was used for the apartment!!! SD 18 does NOT work.....she thinks she's to go for that!!

I'm pretty sure she only took a few classes, and those she couldn't even pass. It is pretty disgusting.

Dh has NO regrets about not filling out the FASBA paperwork .....

I've never been able to understand how BM and her husband are such Right wing, ultra conservatives, yet they are ALWAYS looking for hand outs. I always thought ultra Conservatives were against social programs.......I guess unless it benefits them.

Hatecopycats's picture

100 percent agreed!! I think it is plain wrong she never had to work for anything! Not a car, cell phone, gas, clothes NADA!!! Then her parents wonder why she is an entitled little bitch.

doll faced sm's picture

To some extent, but I also think it has a lot to do with maturity and necessity. I only say this because I *am* the result of going to school on the Pell Grant. The lowest amount of credit hours I took any semester was 16 while working FT+ (mandatory OT at Sallie Mae), and then 22 credit hours my last semester of school when I'd saved up enough to be able to quit SMA until the semester's end. I made all As/Bs. However, I was also 25 years old, was fully aware there was no way in the world I could afford college on my own, a single mom, etc. So, passing and getting my degree were a top priority for me regardless of who was paying.

Hatecopycats's picture

LOL....better BM get the kick in the ass then us. After all, she was the ONLY person that was constantly putting things in the kids ears and bad mouthing us on a daily basis, to the point 3 of the 4 skids have nothing to do with us at all.

I'm glad for once it seems she has to pay the price for her actions. I'm only sorry she caught on at 18k instead of more. I guess I should rephrase that....her DH caught on since BM really pressured her husband to go along with co signing the loans. I'm sure he isn't too happy with the way things have turned out.

SS12 also said him and his vile brother ss15 are upset because now that sd18 is back they have to go back to sharing a room.

This is totally random but i wanted to mention for once in her miserable existence BM said something very true about me!!

She told SS12 I loved our dog and was more concerned with my dog's comfort then SS12. She is 100 percent accurate in that statement! Glad to see some truth can leave her mouth.

irritatedgal's picture

Uh-copycats I'M right wing, and conservative and I'm against people who want free handouts and wont work, I'm not against social programs...I recieved foodstamps working 30 hours a week, going to school AND volunteering at my child's preschool so I didn't get stuck paying a copay I cant afford. So you thought wrong...and btw if the program hadn't "benefited" me my kids would go hungry.

sassafrassey's picture

My step son did the same thing, failed the first 2 years of private college which is much more expensive. My husband is paying for his education still, his son's grades have come up, but he at 22 still refuses to work, stating that he doesn't have time. My husband learned his lesson from his son, and his daughter has different rules, which is smart, but I feel bad that his son has been given everything when his daughter has more responsibility. It has paid off though, his daughter is working over 30 hours a week and going to school full time. She is 100% more mature than her brother and has stated that her brother is a lazy freeloader.

As for school and FAFSA - I have been there, and have 100,000 in student loans to pay off because of my education. I currently have my Masters in Accounting. My loans were so high because I worked 60 hours a week to support myself, and was never able to qualify for grants of any kind. I was damned if I did, and damned if I didn't. The system that they have in place truly sucks, as I was selling my text books back early to pay for a broken boiler in the winter (had no heat for 3 weeks), I was denied financial help for school. On the other side of the fence, my sister whom had gotten laid off, living a standard 4X higher than mine, received 10,000 from the government for school.

Your SD doesn't deserve an education paid for by the government, or for that matter her parents; she hasn't earned it.

dodgegal05's picture

My df's exwife wanted him to tell our state that one of the skids lived here still so she could get free insurance thru the state. He actually said no w/o even thinking and the ex bitched about it for about 5 minutes, then it was over. If he would of done that and the state found out we could of faced criminal charges. BM's are so stupid sometimes...