This is my first time posting here. I've read a few threads this morning and I just have to try to work through some of this shit by writing it down. Thank you for reading it.

I married DH 12 years ago. I am Dh's 3rd wife. He married and had a child with his first wife, who is 10 years older than he is, when he was very young. He has no children with his second wife. He and I have a 10 year old DD together.

Needless to say, I had NOTHING to do with him breaking up with this woman, I met him 8 years AFTER he had been divorced from his first wife. She and SD lived in LA, CA and we live in Atl, GA. I have only met BM once, many years ago. She doesn't know me and she lives 3,000 miles away from me, but she talks shit about me. I'm assuming that she is getting her info from SD.

BM is very manipulative. She's never held a job for very long. She always lives with friends and has no place of her own and she is 62 years old. She loves handouts of any kind and will resort to extortion. Basically a professional moocher. She feels she is entitled even though she has done nothing to earn anything.

SD has been totally screwed up and scared by BM. SD has all sorts of problems. All sorts of crap has gone down with her over the years. One of the biggest was that she hid a pregnancy right up until the day that she gave birth. And she was 20 at the time (not like she was 15 or 16 yanno? why not tell someone?) She's also had 4 abortions that I know of both before and after the birth of her DS who is now 8 years old.

Last summer SD-29 and her DS-8 moved to Atlanta, near us. I knew this was not a good thing for me or my family. I knew that it was going to cause problems. I've been determined to stay out of their (SD and BM's) drama. I have drawn boundaries. They are not allowed to live with us. Of course she'd rather live with us so that she can mooch but I simply will NOT have it. It would be horrible, even worse, if she lived with us. She also wanted DH to co-sign on a car for her. He told her that he would and then I talked him out of it. He didn't realize what he was saying "yes" to and once I explained to him that we would be making her car payments because she is so irresponsible, he changed his mind. She has already had cars repossesed.

We have given her thousands of dollars since right before she moved here and in the year since she has been living here. Yet I'm still the bitch because I won't let her move in and I won't let DH buy her a car. I make more money than DH so we are not talking about just HIS money here. Niether of them seem to understand that. They think that we should buy SD and her DS all sorts of nice presents for every occasion and give them money all the time, provide food, transportation and housing, simply because "I am your daughter and he is your grandson." Well, what about me and my DD? We are living paycheck to paycheck as it is.

I (without even discussing it with DH) bought DD a bedroom set, a cheap one from Rooms to Go for her 10th birthday. DD had been wanting new furniture for years because she was still using the same stuff that she had when she was first born (the crib was one of those that could be turned into a bed.) I got it on one of those no interest for 18 months deals. Well, SD just went ballistic. She had expected Dh (with MY money) to buy her all new furniture for the new place that she moved into when she moved to ATL and he wouldn't do it of course. So when I got the new furniture for DD she was beside herself with anger and jelousy.

The sense of entitlement that SD has is huge. I'm really surprised that she hasn't moved back to LA by now. I didn't think that she would last this long because she had never lived on her own before. Dh got her a job working at the same company that he does, but she doesn't make much money and she isn't ambitious in the least. She barely does enough to get by and has been put on warning by her bosses. She'd be fired by now if she weren't Dh's DD.

Both BM and SD think that if I would just drop dead then everything would be great for SD because I wouldn't be in the way. But, if I dropped dead then just where would this money come from?

And contrary to SD's opinion, the poor relationship between SD and DH is not my fault. It is SD's fault because of her lies and manipulations. She lies to her BM about me also.

I'm usually pretty good at distancing myself from this crap. Last week, SD made some cryptic remark to someone on her FB page that she was getting married on Thursday (yesterday.) Then, yesterday BM called DH (he never answers the phone for her, she leaves voicmails and text messages.) She was ranting on and on about how it was up to him to stop SD from marrying this guy. DS is very secretive and non-communicative so we know nothing of her social life. BM called me a bunch of names and all kinds of crap. Normally he doesn't even tell me what she's written but this time I asked. Big mistake, I'm a sensitive person and this all really hurt my feelings. Realistically I know that she is just a bitch who is jealous and doesn't even know me. But I'm really hurt that she is getting all this negative info from SD whom I've given so much to.

Thanks for letting me vent.