I first had to re read my other posts to reconfirm that I will never engage with this girl again. 3 1/2 years ago , she held her sons for ransom. We were very close to the gskids and were a big part of their lives. We were banned from seeing in them because DH told her sister (now 32) to start helping with the dishes at big events and to quit intentionally snubbing, and basically shitting on me.

She has written such vile, hateful things to us. She has a personality disorder. We coaxed and begged to reconcile(stupid us!) and were accused of harming her children that day. She was running around her house shouting for us to leave and quit frightening her children.

I thought she would come to her senses when her father had major cancer surgery. After all, her mother dies of cancer but it only made matters worse. How dare you do this and that and what horrible people we were.

This is the very short version.

Anyway, she shows up at our doorstep. (we had never met the youngest grandson who is now 3). Didn't say a word. The oldest came running up and I scooped him up in my arms and had a joyous reunion with him. The second oldest says he doesn't remember us. They stay 4 hours and we play with the boys. She doesn't even introduce us to the youngest.

I just made small talk with her politely. She never apologized, never actually said anything . My grandson couldn't stop talking he had so much to tell us.

Then she left.

We just kind of went back to what we were doing. I have my heart totally closed off to her now so she can't hurt me anymore because believe you me, she WILL attack again.

Since she is divorcing, she can't do a thing about us not seeing the grandkids anymore because she signed for shared custody and we have reconciled with her soon to be ex.

The ex, by the way, apologized, broke down and told us how horrible they had been to us by with holding the kids but he said he was between a rock and hard place with her and us.

Just thought I would tell you that unless I have a delayed reaction from all of this and it has now been 36 hours.....we are doing fine. No anxiety, no walking on eggshells. No hurt.