Let the Holiday disengagement begin!
Not my circus not my monkey! I love disengaging! DH told Steps years ago that Easter was his holiday and he expected them to come every year. Of course that meant I did all the planning and inviting and bowing to their time table. Oops this year I've disengaged and not doing it! I did ask DH last week after the grandkids birthday party (i didn't attend) if he had talked to them about Easter and he said nope they know they are supposed to come over. I left it at that.
Well SS decided to text (never a good idea he rarely answers) DH yesterday and ask. The text was along the lines of "Me and SDs haven't heard anything about Easter. SM hasn't invited us yet and she's no longer friend's with SDs on Facebook so they haven't heard anything either". Gotta love how it's all my fault and making sure DH knew I wasn't friends with them on Facebook!!! Yep I haven't invited you because it's not my job! DH was busy so he hasn't responded yet either. When he told me I reminded him I wasn't doing anything extra for them and it's his job to deal with them. My only request was he ask them to bring a real dish since asking them to bring deserts or a drink never works.
MSD calls this morning and wakes DH up because DH didn't answer the text she sent him a few days ago about rather or not he was attending her graduation in May (she's finally graduating community college after 6 years!). DH was not happy because she woke him up and he told her he hadn't replied to her text because it was months away! No mention of Easter. LOL
We'll see how this goes! I really hope he keeps putting it off till one of them plans their own so they don't come to our house but I don't think I'll end up that lucky!
If they do plan their own ,
If they do plan their own , will you go if invited or do you want the day to yourself ? Cause if you do maybe make plans to take you out of the house Easter with your own family or that? You don't want to be there when they invade !
Your doing a great job disengaging - I think it will be a real shock for everyone when there is no Easter party and they have to fend for themselves ! Love how even disengaged it is still your problem! Do these people ever grow up?
If they do their own I won't
If they do their own I won't go and hubby won't either. He is dead serious that they are supposed to come to him for Easter. He said every other holiday they put him last so he has "claimed" Easter as his a few years ago. He's is making plans to smoke a brisket so he'll be cooking all day.
My older daughters know this and has made plans to come home already. She didn't have to be invited she knew he was expecting her and called and asked what time she needed to be there lol. His kids just don't catch on that we shouldn't have to call and beg them to come over and adjust plans to fix them!
My MDD has to be driven back to college that evening so darn it me and my dd's will have to leave while the Steps are there to drive her back to college over an hour away!!!
That's great! Good for you! I
That's great! Good for you! I hope you enjoy your time with your kids
That is good that you and DH
That is good that you and DH are continuing with your regular plans. Don't know why these steps expect the red carpet treatment for a normal family tradition and expect us to bow at their feet for showing up LOL.
Just ignore them and carry on. You are doing the right thing.
Father's Day, son-in-law, my
Father's Day, son-in-law, my Dad's (will be 100 this year), and DH's birthday are usually within a day or two; same story as yours. We have to make all these plans around DH, SD55 and SGD30 are in charge of course. My Dad lives in the neighboring State; so they don't consider having it so that he is invited.
I am disengaged, after six years of working at it, from skids; so I will be going to my Dad's for his birthday and Father's Day this year. He will be 100 and of course I wouldn't miss it.
Bottom line, let them do their own thing and you don't have to be saddled with the work; this is what I do. My Dad and I go out to eat.
"SM hasn't invited us
"SM hasn't invited us yet"
LOL. Sadly, they're seeing how invested their Dad ISN'T.
I love not being SO's cruise director! I hated that role in my 1st marriage, I refuse to do it again!
Do you whatever you want
Do you whatever you want ETexas and don't worry about anyone else! Why should a family w/ a regular holiday routine have to ask a million questions about what's going on? They should already know!