He designed and built it, and the inside is very unfinished, which he has let go for years. I finally suggested he hire his nephew, little did I realize that my dh would be working side by side every weekend. Oh he will take me out to dinner sat night. Other than that ....weekends I can be sitting at his house, or stay at mine alone. I should add during the week I see him two nights .....he stays at my house.
The only positive thing is that he SAYS that when the house is finished, in about a year, he will sell it. Yet clearly I have my doubts. Why he basically devote the next year to this work clearly at the expense of his relationship. I am also told it has nothing to do with getting more money for it, it is what he wants. I should support him, and oh yeah I should do carpentry work. Yeah right!
This has created such a rift with us. I drove to his house sat night ...went out to dinner, drank too much wine and told him I think he is very selfish, and likely will not sell a house he is neglecting his wife for. I got no response. No denials.
He has become very close with his nephew. In fact, he took his second car away from my son and now the nephew has it. Nephew may also be moving into dh's house. He is a nice kid, I have no issue with him, but for my dh to basically tell me his weekends are now working on his house, with a sat dinner if I run there.....that is a bitter pill to swallow. I feel abandoned actually. I am in my late 50's make plenty if money and my kids are in college.....yet I sit alone now....
What is giving me great stress is I entered the marriage with three dogs, that dh has grown very close to, and we bought one together. All the dogs live at my house. Lately dh will comment when he arrives to my house that nobody loves him like these dogs, and "they go where I go". He even has told me over the years that they love him best and if we ever split up, he gets them! Forget about how attached my kids are to them. Honestly , I now live in fear that if we do divorce he will take my dogs, who are like my children. This is motivating me to suck up to this crazy relationship. He says his comments are just to "provoke me" nothing more. I feel so trapped and stuck.
He designed and built it, and
He designed and built it, and the inside is very unfinished, which he has let go for years. I finally suggested he hire his nephew, little did I realize that my dh would be working side by side every weekend. Oh he will take me out to dinner sat night. Other than that ....weekends I can be sitting at his house, or stay at mine alone. I should add during the week I see him two nights .....he stays at my house.
The only positive thing is that he SAYS that when the house is finished, in about a year, he will sell it. Yet clearly I have my doubts. Why he basically devote the next year to this work clearly at the expense of his relationship. I am also told it has nothing to do with getting more money for it, it is what he wants. I should support him, and oh yeah I should do carpentry work. Yeah right!
This has created such a rift with us. I drove to his house sat night ...went out to dinner, drank too much wine and told him I think he is very selfish, and likely will not sell a house he is neglecting his wife for. I got no response. No denials.
He has become very close with
He has become very close with his nephew. In fact, he took his second car away from my son and now the nephew has it. Nephew may also be moving into dh's house. He is a nice kid, I have no issue with him, but for my dh to basically tell me his weekends are now working on his house, with a sat dinner if I run there.....that is a bitter pill to swallow. I feel abandoned actually. I am in my late 50's make plenty if money and my kids are in college.....yet I sit alone now....
What is giving me great
What is giving me great stress is I entered the marriage with three dogs, that dh has grown very close to, and we bought one together. All the dogs live at my house. Lately dh will comment when he arrives to my house that nobody loves him like these dogs, and "they go where I go". He even has told me over the years that they love him best and if we ever split up, he gets them! Forget about how attached my kids are to them. Honestly , I now live in fear that if we do divorce he will take my dogs, who are like my children. This is motivating me to suck up to this crazy relationship. He says his comments are just to "provoke me" nothing more. I feel so trapped and stuck.