Happy Mother's Day to the Ladies!
Mother's day comes with a mix of emotions for many of us. We have poured alot of us into our step children and have worked very hard to brings our families together and many of us will not get what we deserve on this day, which is a just a thank you or a small token of appreciation or acknowledgement. I used to dread this day as it would always hurt that my stepsons who my husband had full custody would ignore me and give me nothing. They were angry that I even existed. I disengaged from them, with the urging of a counselor several years ago. It was the best thing I could have done. I have not had any contact with either stepson in several years. At first I felt guilty, wondered if I was doing what was right. I can say that now looking back, it was. They can continue to hate me for try to take the place as their mom. Their mom left, I had nothing to do with the break-up. I met their dad 3 years later. They could never accept me and that's fine. My job is done and I feel I did a good job with all the challenges I had with them. I am at peace now, no guilt and no desire to have them a part of my life.
Ladies, enjoy your day. Know in your heart that you are doing your best even though there may be no acknowledgement. Do something for yourself that will make this day special for you!
Happy Mother's Day all! I
Happy Mother's Day all! I hope your day or weekend is great. I had the best gift ever - I watched my oldest son graduate from college today with honors, and yes, I was a very proud mom!
I wish everyone the happiness they deserve!
Thank you AVR1962. That is
Thank you AVR1962. That is the most honest Mother's Day words that I have ever heard. Mixed emotions is an understatement on this day. I lost my mom 13 years ago. My birth children are grown but I know I will hear from them. My SK's, well you described it all above. Their BM died and I had the nerve to show up here and try to help them become productive human beings in life which will probably never happen. And to make matters worse, I think anything bad that happens to them in their life will always be my fault. DH more or less said it would. I've tried telling DH that his son hated me from the moment I got here but he will never see or believe that.
Hope you have a great mother's day as well.
we had a family get together
we had a family get together with the two skids. a nice meal but dh totally clueless as the two skids snarked at each other across the dinner table. just as dh was clueless as his children were growing up, including getting kicked out of the military, dropping out of college and minor scrapes with the law (dh thinks his children are angels), dh did not see all the sibling rivalry and biting comments. he came away from the evening beaming at how wonderful it was.