DH's eldest daughter being a controlling jerk?
Further to my previous post about DH's eldest daughter suddenly deciding she, SSIL and SGS were going out out west to visit YSD in June - exactly during the timeframe DH and I had already confirmed we planned to go out - this just seems to get more and more ridiculous
Originally we learned from YSD that DH's eldest told her she was going out west, during the same timeframe that DH and I had planned our trip there so DH asked YSD when her sister was going out but YSD said she didn't know the week specifically and for us to just book it
DH didn't want to do that of course as it would end up conflicting with the time his eldest daughter went out
Despite asking repeatedly, no one was confirming the time frame for DH
So weekend before last when we were all at that event DH's eldest daughter had everyone go to, DH asks her about which week specifically in June they're planning to go out west. She immediately answers with the week, then as if she had caught herself says but it could be the week before or the week after
Grrr!!!!
So basically that takes up the month of June as DH doesn't want to end up having the time we go out be back to back with his eldest daughter's visit
So DH says fine, we'll go out in July instead
His daughter says nothing...I was thinking to myself then that DH probably shouldn't have said anything at all as she would probably try to disrupt this timing for us too
So DH confirms with YSD the week in July that we plan to attend
Sure enough, YSD send DH a text today saying that her time off from work is over as of the first week in July she can't get any more time off work
All along I've been thinking DH's eldest's plan has been to prevent us having a visit with YSD, unless DH's eldest is there at the same time (and controlling everything of course) or better yet to prevent it at all
I'm wondering if YSD is succumbing to DH's eldest's pressure to insure she is either on the trip out with DH and I, or to prevent it from happening at all
That would make even more insecure than I thought, that DH can't even visit YSD without his eldest interfering and making sure she is there, or making sure it doesn't happen at all
Whatever
In the end it doesn't matter to me, I just sit back and shake my head that DH puts up with all this BS
I meant to add that prior to
I meant to add that prior to today, when DH had suggested July to YSD she said it was great. Now all of a sudden she can't get the time off work?
And insecure, and
And insecure, and }:)
In answer to your question
In answer to your question StepAside - I think because DH's eldest daughter doesn't want DH and YSD, nor me and YSD, to have a great trip which of course we would without DH's eldest involved!
It would be wonderful if you were correct but sadly no, DH's eldest daughter only wants me around to stir up shit
What I think i,s DH's eldest doesn't want DH and I to have a nice visit with YSD...DH really doesn't want his eldest daughter there for this visit, he wants to some spend time with YSD, especially as for some of it I made a point of asking YSD to schedule some things for me separate from her and DH, so she can have some alone time with her dad and I'm sure DH's eldest also knows this
DH's eldest also knows that YSD and I get along great and I've conveyed to YSD many times how excited I am for this visit and spending time with her. I think DH's eldest is simply too insecure to sit back and allow that to happen, not without trying to interfere or prevent it all together
She likes to control everything in DH's life including where I'm concerned, and seems to me she is trying her damnest to interfere with this plan as she had no control or say over it and it won't be all about her
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