And this kind of libtard court crap is exactly why though our Custody/Visitation/Support CO was issued in Oregon we never lived closer than 1200miles to that beautiful cesspool of libtard crap. Oregon is a beautiful place that would be amazing and nearly perfect if it was not full of idiot Oregonians. The few that are not idiots seem to have moved far, far, away. At least that is the case for my bride. I am hopeful for your kids/Skids that you too are exception to my Oregon experience.

My bride was an Oregonian 16 & Pregnant Single Teen Mom with a 22yo unconvicted statutory rapist POS SpermIdiot. She petitioned for an order of paternity and CS before my SS-24 turned 1yo. She then took the kid and moved out of state for college after she graduated with her HS class with honors and left the then 24yo POS SpermIdiot perpetrating statutory rape against yet another 16yo minor and moved out of state for university.

When SpermGrandHag heard that my then GF was dating someone at university she filed for custody in he useless POS son's name. Instead of rolling over and playing dead my bride took out supplemental school loans, got an attorney and faught them in court. We finally ended up in front of the Judge to nail the SpermClan to yet a bigger CS payment and to defeat their idiot attempt at custody the week after we married.

From then on it was our fondest hobby to bare the SpermClan's idiot asses in court and do everything in our power to bankrupt them and show yet another idiot Oregonian family court judge how big of an idiot they are.

My bride went on to a dual major BS with honors, an MBA with honors, and on to a successful career as a CPA. She made it her primary focus in life to demonstrate to her son what hard work, character, and education can do for a person. She also commited to give him an example of what a marriage and equity life partnership is and what being quality parents looks like. I am honored that she chose me to set that example with.

"In oregon if a parent is continuing missing visits we are supposed to tell the child that you both love him/ her and to make exceptions as to meeting the parent compromising by meeting them to take or visit the child."

My ass! As my SS-23 got older we introduced him to every fact of his POS SpermIdiot's behavioral, criminal, and recreational drug escapades as well as the SpermGrandPa's affairs and SpermGrandHag's toxic crap. We let there be no secrets under the slime covered rock they live under in their shallow and polluted gene pool. Our son was given everything in an age appropriate manner over the years.

Kids should not be lied to. Even if that lie is to tell them that a toxic uncaring parent loves them. Yes, definately do not PAS the kid against the other parent but do not speak for the other parent. Let that parent speak for themselves. Stick with the facts. Kids need the facts so that they can learn to protect themselves from the shallow and polluted end of their gene pool (if they have one) and have a chance of overcoming and being far better than the toxic part of their family.

Don't feed your kid the Oregon Kool-Aid. Tell your kid the truth. The kid deserves it.

My son had regular visitation with his SpermClan in SpermLand (Oregon). From the time he was 2yo until he aged out from under the CO when he was 18 the SpermClan had 7wks of long distance visitation they could take. (5wks summer, 1wk winter, 1wk spring). They missed many of those visitations and even when they took visitation my son rarely saw his SpermIdiot for more than a day on any give SpermLand visitation. The SpermIdiot was usually too busy with his lowrider, snowboarding, playing some stupid fantasy card game, or chasing yet another of his out of wedlock spawning baby mamas. He has 4 out of wedlock spawn by 3 different baby mamas. My son is his eldest and our only.

When my son was 22 he asked me to adopt him. We made that happen. He has put the shallow and toxic end of his gene pool far in his rear view mirror. In large part because in an age appropriate manner we told him the facts and the truth about that part of his family and the rest of his family for that matter. He knows who his real family is and who really cares about him and loves him. He loves his SpermClan because his mom and I raised him to know that you live family. He does not respect them though. His respect.... they have yet to earn.

Sorry for my rant.

In psychology it states not to tell them that the other parent loves them, they must of had other things to do. Or distract them? Really? That doesn't sound realistic to me..

Absolutely this^^^^^^^ Love is not a noun, it is a verb. It is action. Actions grow the feelings. If there is feeling without action that is not love. That is endorphins. That tingly feeling is not love.

And that is why so many kids are in blended families to begin with. Parents who failed to require action from either themselves or their X breeding partners. They mistook endorphins for love.

Kids deserve better than that.

I now relinquish the soap box.