So this is where we stand as of today. BM signed all the papers. We got our visitation and the CS lowered due to his finances etc and his pay. She did manage to rack up a 3200 bill with his attorney with all her emails and phone calls. And yes she emailed A LOT and called A LOT. Hell she put us in contempt for back CS that we don't owe then when the court date came up on the 24th she asked that she do it by phone because she had no gas money to come down THEN she asked the judge for the filing fee back that it took for her to file the contempt charge. OMG she is nutts........ she wrote the judge several letters asking for this and that. It just got crazy for the past few months.
As of Nov 1st everything we asked for is in effect. So......... I emailed her BF (she refuses to talk to either of us and told my DH if he contacted her she would file a restraining order. I asked him which weekend worked best for them on a monthly basis for the kids. Since they live six hours away we are on a long distance parenting plan now. So I say to him which weekend would work best for you guys. I think if we designate a weekend then everyone can plan around that every month so we aren't wondering what weekend the kids will be here or you guys aren't having to break plans etc. He emails back and says well we don't want to do that. We just want to go month by month. The kids have alot of activities they are involved in....... BULLSHIT I say to that. Neither boys do any sports. BF works on the weekends and BM is going to school. So here we are again back at square one. No compliance with the BRAND NEW agreement. I am FURIOUS today. I have kids too. It is clearly the best and obvious thing to designate a weekend during a month. I mean seriously......... we can't just sit around and wait for them to say yea this weekend is best. It's a SIX hour drive. And we WORK. Yes we actually WORK!

So now what................. back to our lawyer? Mediation? What the hell do we do now!!!!!