So DH is out of my house and the divorce papers get filed tomorrow:) I shared my final email to BM with you all. After all the mean and rotten things she has said about DH (he isn't a really good person, just has some of his own issues that he is ignoring and needs to deal with himself) and how crazy she claims I am for staying with him (although she was married to him for 15 years), now that I let her know I am history, she makes the following post on Facebook, which I know about from my SIL:

"Anyone who really loves you, won't let you go no matter how hard the situation is."

Hmmmm...really? I guess BM is realizing that its nice to have me to make sure she gets her child support payments on time (I paid her $3200 of my own money total, which I'll never see again), has a beautiful house for the Skids to stay in, treats them like my own with trips and gifts, provides medical and dental insurance for them (she is currently paying $600 a month to cover them and was banking on cancelling that in January and using my insurance - nope not gonna happen, and does half of the driving to pick them up every other weekend. At this point, DH doesn't have a place to live, is broke, and doesn't have a license so isn't allowed to pick them up. Yes, I know why the HELL did I stay with this guy for even this long? I guess good looks, and six pack, and genuinely being nice, but irresponsible to nth degree will only get you so far. Anyways, BM is looking at a long time before she sees any support payments or "mommy time" as she calls it with the kids away so she can go hunting for a husband.