WWIII over a headband.
We had a great weekend and then today happened...
On Saturday we had a big housewarming/birthday party at our house. FDH and I rented a margarita machine, had the food catered, etc so we could really enjoy the party and pay attention to our guests without having to worry about the details. There were probably 40 people at the house. All the kids swam and got along great with very few scuffles.
Sunday was relaxing and fun as well. Again, mostly good behavior for all the kids, just normal kid stuff.
DD8 and SD8 had to get up today for their camps and thats when it all went to hell. DD8 asked SD8 if she could borrow a headband and SD8 said no. FDH was there when this happened and said - "ok, but dont ask to borrow anything of hers if you aren't going to share your stuff". He goes down stairs and SD8 follows soon after. He asks her if she loaned the stupid headband and she says yes. DD8 comes downstairs and he asks where the headband is and she wasn't given one by SD8.
Yes, WWIII broke out at my house over a stupid fucking headband. FDH yells at SD about lying to him, SD gets pissed and throws something at DD's face and hits her hard. I miss all this because I am getting dressed and all I hear is screaming, wailing and more BS than is necessary. My daughter is crying, FDH is yelling and SD is lying AGAIN and saying it was an accident. Lying little brat, how do you accidentally chunk something at another person's face?
I calm everyone down and we all retreat to neutral corners. I get the girls off to camp and as SD8 is getting out of the car I get out with her and say - "if you ever hit my kid again, I personally will beat your ass. are we clear?"
I have had enough of her hitting my kid and my DD's friends. This kid is a sociopath in the making.
What happens when her mom is
What happens when her mom is ready to beat your butt for hitting her kid?
Just, tell your daughter to hit back. That way BM can't complain. Kids fight from time to time.
I would never actually lay a
I would never actually lay a hand on my SD. Her mother would absolutely go off the deep end and it defeats the purpose of saying not to hit. I was just really angry and she needed a come to Jesus talk - and she got it.
I don't want my kids to hit back, it won't help the situation. My SD had lashed out physically several times so this is not a new issue and it is not getting any better depsite the punishments (taking away priviledges). She has poor impulse control and is so used to getting her own way all.the.time.
Being a part of a family with rules, structure and consequenses is completely new to her. Everyone has always catered to her. The hitting thing is had not really surfaced before becasue she always had her parents undivided attention. God forbid she share.
Sounds like our house. It's
Sounds like our house. It's usually the two girls (13 and 11) who get in a fight over something stupid (SD13 is a bully and SD11 is a nosy tattletale), DH gets involved and suddenly everyone's screaming at each other and the girls are threatening to tell mom so she can take him back to court.
And I'm in my room developing anxiety-induced chest pains and a migraine from the stress... love it.
I hear you - I was getting
I hear you - I was getting dressed, heard the screaming and thought to myself - what the fuck now? I cannot wait until Friday. No bio-kids, no skids for the weekend! Yay me