This is a never ending nightmare.

I'm sorry if I'm repeating myself but the last six months have been complex so I'll summarize as best I can. BM was fired from her job as midwife back in May when they got wind that she was looking for a job (again) 800 miles away. It's my understanding that they had had their fill of her and she was already giving them a lot of headaches. She took DH (and myself, cause, whee!, I'm along for the ride!) to court to change the 50/50 custody arrangement to 80/20 so she could move away with twin SS/SD8. While we were preparing for court, there was a GAL report that was issued in our favor and we bought a house a few miles away to keep SKs in their school district. (We lived just barely outside of the school district but it didn't interfere with us getting kids to where they went to school or being very involved in their classwork. Besides, we knew we were going to move -- we had grown out of our previous house.)

The judge ruled in DH's favor at the end of August and awarded him 80/20 custody with BM getting custody on long holidays and the majority of the summer. In his decision, he even admonished BM for her selfishness.

DH decided in October to file for CS and the CS conference was postponed a few times until it happened a few days ago. Right before the conference, BM called DH to see if the conference was still on. (She attended over the conference over telephone.) She also wanted to pass along to DH that her and her second husband are getting a divorce, that he's moving to another place within eyesight of the residence they just moved into, and she's already paying him a small amount in CS for their nearly 3 year old son. They have to wait a few more months to file for divorce because they haven't established residency in the state they just moved to. BM has asked that we not say anything to SKs -- maybe she wants to break the news when they visit over Christmas?

DH says she was really nasty in the conference and became even more nasty once the mediator explained that she needed to pay CS. DH waived the obligation to pay for childcare to reduce her monthly payments but she was even nasty about that.

DH tells me this morning (and forwarded me screen shots of her text tirade) that she's going to quit the job she just moved 800 miles away to start, that she'll move back to this area to resume 50/50 custody, and sue DH for child support since she'll be taking a lower paying job. Her last job has a restrictive covenant where she is not permitted to be a midwife within a 50 mile radius for, I think, 3 or so years. I think she can take on other jobs as long as it's not as a midwife within this area. She says she's going to intentionally get a lower paying job so he has to pay her CS even with 50/50 custody.

First off -- poor SKs! They lost a lot when BM and her family moved away. They miss their mom, their brothers, and SF. They don't know it yet but their SF is about to be out of the picture and they may even see their brothers less since BM will be juggling three COs. It would be good for SKs to have more access to their mom but it seems that she really needs to pull her head out of her ass and look out for them for a change.

Secondly -- I really don't want to go through this again. She's such a nightmare. I'm worried that she'll be even more toxic moving back than she was before. She's so angry and she's placing all the blame on DH and I.

DH says he's already told our attorney's office. Ugh... another 10 years of this??

Please, please ... someone say something nice ... I need to hear nice things.