BS20's truck is finally fixed after his little wreck a year ago. Why it took so long? Had to put money away here and there for the labor to take the parts off of the donor truck we found to put on his truck. The folks at the body shop called it a smart move...saying what we paid for the donor was less than the parts would have cost, even if we hunted around junk yards. They said we were very fortunate to find one with a perfect body, as most people sell a car for parts when they are wrecked. We found one with a bad transmission and crappy electrical.

Anyway, we went to the body shop today expecting to only take them a new battery to get the truck started and look for leaks. To our surprise, the truck was done, and we were able to drive it home! BS20 has already said thank you about a billion times to me and DH! He's like a little kid at Chistmas. Helped him get some other parts that need to be done after it sat for a year, since the labor actually ended up being a bit less than the estimate. BS20 has already offered to pay me back for the parts a little each pay check...without asking! He's that happy to get his truck back, and knows we didn't have to pay to have it fixed for him. He is actually grateful!

Now, had it been HHB? She would have whined the whole year it sat that she didn't have a car! BS20 just spent his freshman year away at college carless. HHB would have thrown a fit at that! Probably would have been lucky to get one thank you...and it would have only been to DH...even though I saved 75% of the money out of my own checks, and DH pitched in the last with his bonus so we could be sure to get it done before summer was over. (Remember, DH did adopt BS20.)

Gratefulness goes such a long way! I enjoy doing for my bios because they are grateful for everything we do for them! They don't expect it...they try to figure it out on their own first (and yes, BS20 did try to start the project with help from friends, but it was quite a project). I taught them that! Shoot, I always taught BD24 to always take care of herself first...don't depend on a man! Make sure if you get married it is only because of love, and not that you need someone to take care of you! She moved where she is because she was engaged to her high school sweetheart. After they got out there, he changed...started cheating on her and stuff. They broke off the engagement. She stayed there, and did well on her own. The guy had to come back here to move back in with his mom when he fell on his face! When the broke up, he tried to say she needed him, but it was soon obvious it was the other way around!

And that is why I enjoy doing for my bios and can't stand doing anything for HHB! The difference is gratefulness and trying, as opposed to sitting back and expecting!