FINALLY!

an advocate for DH and SD13. This counselor may save this child and her relationship with DH.
I feel so much relief for him.

They met, Counselor (C) agreed that SD was being pressured to not spent time with DH and family etc..

I still won't be a part of it because of the whole cop situation- SD13 still blames me, but hey, i'm okay with it. She can't blame her mother and had to find somewhere to put it. (BM went to my work, told lies, I called cops for harassment, cops scolded her, SD and friends were home at the time)

The larger picture is that BM has to behave herself now with SD's school etc...and SD13 has been told by someone objective and impartial that she needs to be a part of this family. DH can unclench.

Now of course, we wait for what BM may do to undermine all of this.

Visitation will happen at DH's parents house.