I wanted to thank everyone for responding to my other post. (http://www.steptalk.org/node/27274). BF and I talked on Sunday, and although it was just a rehash of things that have been said over and over, I feel much better now having made some decisions of my own.

BF agreed to honor his FIRST promise to me about the her belongings in the garage being gone within the week (after giving her over 2 years!). He called her Sun afternoon and told her we would bring it over Thurs or Fri. She continued complaining about that, but he told her we needed the room and needed to get rid of it. They decided on Fri. However, WE forgot that we are going to a concert Fri night, so he and I talked and agreed to take it over on Thurs night. Now, because of the slight change, I believe he should let BM know that it's coming Thurs night. I have no idea if he has done so or not, but if I have to load it up and take it myself and dump it in her driveway, it's going on Thurs.

BF also agreed to sit down and draft an email together with me that will be sent to her defining the boundaries, examples of how she is crossing them, and setting out expectations, etc. That is supposed to be done this week. If it is not, then I'm doing it myself. Like some of the posts said, if he gets mad at me about that then I know where his priorities lie. (It will be a respectful, appropriate email no matter who sends it.)

BF agreed to get the remote back from her this week. If he doesn't, then I'm going to look into figuring out how to reprogram our remotes and hers will just be rendered useless.

And in the future, I'm going to stand up more for myself and go "directly to the source" as someone said. If it relates to me, my home, respecting my privacy, etc. I will deal with it directly with her.

We'll see how it goes.